would you suggest someone was being unwise with a dream

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What if person A is enthusatically telling person B about their plans
but person B has some misgivings. Should Person B express their
doubts or keep quiet and later on say in the worse case scenario person
A is made a complete and utter fool and is embarassed or should
person B tell person A their misgivings and that person A ends up
being upset and accuses person B of being a buzzkill.

is it better to unintentionally upset someone to save them from making
a blunder?


What should one do keep quiet or express your misgivings of course
you could express your worrys and the person takes your advice
and later on wishes they did not.

Let me guess... you are person B?

Giving unwanted advise is difficult, sometimes it seems necessary. I always try to see the positive aspects and the plan and say them. But I also give them my negative advice. That way it seems more balanced and the other person see it less as an attack.
And for people I know won't listen I do not bother.

Yeah, that's good advice, give them the positive, then the negative. It's like putting cat medicine in tuna. It wouldn't work if you put tuna in cat medicine.

Yup, the sandwich approach works even better if there's enough postive things to say.

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First layer- something generally good
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Second layer- the crtitsism
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Third layer- Something specificly good about it
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