having difficulty communicating in written form also.

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Sometimes i read about how people are fine with interaction through internet mostly in written form. And seem to say they are good at communication in written form.

Im interested to know about the people who struggle with written communication also.

For myself i am never satisfied with posts i make and it feels they dont communicate my ideas well. More often then not i put time into writing a post and then dont post it at all.

Its like the ideas in your mind are a mix of words and something that cannot be explained in words. You think its pretty clear and you're on to something but the moment you try to put it into words you get confused. So you can never explain your thoughts well to yourself and to others.

I feel that i am pretty smart but at the same time i am not smart at all. You always get a hint at things but you almost never really get the full picture and its quite annoying.

IF you cant explain it in simple terms you do not understand well enough.

People tell me im always thinking too difficult. Its like you have this great graphics card but you lack the processing power to make it run smoothly Vs a computer that runs smoothly but doesnt have as good of a graphics card.

Does this sound familiar ?.

Most times when I go to write something it never sounds as good as it did in my mind. My long blog posts and articles are just the same. What happens is I'll get a thought, usually with my articles I would think about the whole text and so remembering it all is hard in the first place. But on smaller posts I will go to write down my thoughts but I'll get more than one word that means the same as the word I want to write down and this will throw me off the whole sentence. I'm basically doing that now. Starting to write but then retracting from what I was going to write because it doesn't sound good enough and then pausing mid sentence because I forget about what I was going to write next. I only forget it when I go to write it down. The thought is still in my mind. My verbal communication skills are five times as worse than this. I mean at least there is a backspace and edit button on my keyboard. I don't have one of those when I talk to people.

I'm also not very good with key words like 'to', 'as', 'for' and mix them up all the time.
Sometimes I can...well this is very hard for me to explain because it is only visual to me. When speaking, reading and sometimes writing I feel the words slip away from me. A full word separates into letters and those letters turn into twirling shapes, straighten out and then disappear. Needless to say when I'm like this it's impossible to write a single reply on a forum let alone read any other posts on a forum.
I have a very choppy way of reading and writing too. It's like every three or four words are separated by lines. These lines are actually like a visual window for me. I can only see those few words until I move on to the next three and the pattern keeps going like that. In fact the words in this visual window are the only words I can think of which make me pause a great deal before being able to write anything more.

Gosh that was hard to write.

I find writen communication very hard, harder even than real life communication. I find I get much more of the theory of mind confusions over the internet and dont have the writing capasity or imagination to write things in way people can follow or understand. I find people often think I mean somethign completely different to what i do mean. I think I also have some mild form of dyslexia as all the aspies Ive met who dont have dyslexia love writing and find it much easier, however the aspies ive met who are dyslexic also have difficulty writing posts and pm's and difficulty being understood. Im half way through an msc so Im not stupid but my written communication is so poor. its very frustrating.

I also find written communication hard. I'm a pretty good writer, but when I'm writing something to an individual or on a forum, I don't do so well. I have problems with trying to include the other person/people I'm writing to in my writing, and have trouble with sounding too formal. When I try to make it informal, I often feel like I've crossed a line. Basically I often just write an essay with a 'yours truly' at the end.

I understand what you are going through. Except in my computer analogy it will be ISA bus connecting the processor to the PCI-E graphics card. I can think fast and type fast but it is slow in between the two. My hands sit posed on the keyboard, the brain is going real fast, but for some reason it is very slow between the two.

The real problem for me is people's perception of what I write. I can spend two hours writing a post, more time editing it because I think it doesn't express what I thought clearly enough. But when someone else reads what I wrote, they think its great. They think "How can you struggle so much to write something?". Just want them to be a mind reader so they can see what a struggle it is for me.

Some people say they can talk to one person better than if they have talk to a group. To me its the same way with writing. If I'm writing a PM then doesn't take as long to write as compared to a forum post like this one.

I better quit thinking about what to say here or I'm going be up all night. I just wish there was some way to communicate here on WP that didn't involve typing it up. I would be posting on all threads and still have time in the day to do other things. That would be so great

Anyway take some comfort from that fact that you are not alone with having problems with the written word. If you want to PM to discuss it more that is fine. Maybe we can trade ideas on how to help with the problem. Maybe we can collaborate on a device that will allow us to participate on WP without using the written word

I find written communication easier than verbal.

But I still find it hard.

Overall, I find that writing is less frustrating the speaking because there isn't usually the requirement to respond immediately.

I find I tend to over-explain in writing.

I think this is sometimes because I get confused about how to explain what I want to explain, and sometimes because I really want to make sure that someone understands what I'm saying (because of a previous verbal misunderstanding).

Either way, the over explanation is often to my own detriment - either people don't understand because my writing is confused, or they see the over explanation as being "too much" and they don't want to read it.

I tend to check, double check and triple check to make sure it is OK before I send it. But even afterwards I will go back and reread several times - often this will result in my going back to edit a forum post several times, or sending an addendum/correction to an already overly long email to clarify something.

I usually aim to write something short, concise and clear but that rarely happens.

I see some people posting on this site, for example, who manage to write a few words that clearly explain the difficulties they are experiencing and I think - "Wow, that's exactly me." Yet it would take me half a page to write what they have written in one short sentence, and my writing would certainly not make things any clearer to the reader.

(Edit 1) I realise the effort that some people will put into their short, concise posts. Yet even with considerable time and review, I still can't do it.
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I've probably just done it again.