nonverbal expression

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Do you ever send nonverbal messages without being aware you're doing so? For example my mom will tell me not to do something and I will be upset/ annoyed but decide not to say anything bcs I don't want to fight/don't care that much...but my mom will say "don't make that face" or "don't use that tone" when I say something neutral. I don't always realize when I have a tone in my voice or a look on my face! This has gotten me into trouble sometimes bcs people think I have negative intentions when I'm not directing a message to anyone and am not even aware that I'm sending one! Anyone relate?

Yes! I have gotten in trouble for tones and facial expressions that I make and am not aware of MY ENTIRE LIFE. It SUCKS.

Yes. Very hard to hide or control shown emotion. Someone says something, and the only way I realize I gave them a wtfomgfu face is they angrily stomp away. Either because of a smile, or disgruntled look I gave them unknowingly.

When I say something, I never have any hidden meaning for what I'm saying, yet people seem to try and read into it.

Like if I tell someone "I'm tired, I'm going to go sleep.", and they think I'm trying to avoid them or something because of how I say it, when I'm really just tired.

This can be extended to instances like when I keep my bedroom door closed, and other people see that as "don't come in", when I just like to keep my door closed. If someone wanted to come in, they could just knock, but nobody ever does.

Before my life was changed beyond my own ability by Jesus, I was at times very angry & COULD NOT HELP IT. I would be angry for like an hour at a time, all stiff, my having 2 go nto a store 2 buy food & the preparer would kindly say, "calm down, its all right." and Id have visable trouble breathing nicely and I told him I couldnt help it, & I was embarassed.
this also happened (but I had NO clue I was so transparent) in jr hi I sat out front after school 1 day numbingly depressed more than 5 asked wats wron

According to my mother I look like I'm pissed off 24/7.

Yep I get that a lot. For example I was told that someone had thought I was annoyed with them when I was probably using that body language because I was worried about another thing but in reality I wasn't worried or annoyed and didn't realise my body language had done anything.

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This happens to me too........people try to read hidden meaning into my "nonverbal communication".... because I clearly have the social sophistication to send a subtle message that way (extreme sarcasm). I am not communicating/not trying to communicate anything!

I also have a problem though with hiding my true emotional reaction to something/or I don't realize I'm having an emotional reaction to something/displaying an emotion.........which is more what I was originally talking about.

Yeah. People have read anger, flirting, dislike, shock, hatred into my facial expressions when I really don't have strong feelings.

I also love being treated like I am some kind of Machiavellian manipulator when I barely know what other people are reading into my face value attempts at communication.