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15 Mar 2011, 3:35 pm

The aspie habit of honesty causing Nt's to feel threatened about their illusive reality.



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15 Mar 2011, 6:13 pm

AmberEyes wrote:
Moog wrote:
One thing I noticed on a recent outing with other aspies and auties recently is the lack of reciprocity... no feedback. We were playing snooker and I was the only one cheering the others or commenting on their good shots, etc. I felt so NT that day :lol:


I read a book recently that said something along the lines of:
"Humans thrive on social feedback. Imagine a world with hardly any social feedback. How awful would that be?"

I don't have to imagine!
Welcome to my house!
Welcome to the IT and Science courses that I've been on.

I have met friendly people in these situations. People who cared deeply and said the bare minimum of what was required. No natter natter natter. They just said what needed to be said. That was it.

No, it wasn't awful for me in these situations.
"Actions speak louder than words".
If you've been brought up in situations like this, how can it be awful to enjoy a deep conversation of few words with somebody?
How can it be awful to do something you're interested in with people you love.

I honestly didn't see anything wrong with people being quiet or having their own interests.
If friends, family and teachers were like this and still kind, I didn't see anything wrong with it.

It kind of makes me regret sharing personal/emotional problems with family because PSHE lessons told me to. It made them uncomfortable. They bottled up their emotional problems and didn't really see the need to share them. They just dealt with things by sitting quietly and thinking them through. They encouraged me to do the same.

I was so confused with what people really wanted from me.
There was the "do your own thing" ethic at home vs the "join hands and confess all" ethic at school.


I also grew up in a zero feedback environment. Or confusing feedback. My parent's are probably spectrumites too.


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15 Mar 2011, 7:06 pm

I thought you would pick up on the lack of reciprocation. 8)

Of all the subtle subversive non-verbal communication aspies suck at. That has to rank somewhere in the top 5 regardless of where you are on the spectrum


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15 Mar 2011, 7:23 pm

1) Talking non-stop (or when something brings up a slight inccorect fact I correct it and keep talking about it for longer than necessary).
2) Not talking enough
3) Having meltdowns
4) Constantly watching Stargate and making grunts or glaring at people when they make the slightest noise
5) Correcting grammar
6) Telling people how they should do everything (I'm working on it)
7) Bickering about dishes not being rinsed or stacked properly
8 ) Staring into space.
9) Staring at everything but the person trying to talk to me
10) Doing most things at a certain time of day
11) Being unemployed and not living on my own
12) Taking things literally
13) Being annoyed by sounds (toughen up kid, indeed)
14) Changing my mind (saying I wanted to learn how to cook but then say 'I'm too tired - non-medicated to want to cook now.')

Not so sure if my stimming is irritating.


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15 Mar 2011, 9:45 pm

Correcting mistakes in TV commercials or programs.
"Always having an answer to everything" (even though my answers are logical and usually correct. NT's just don't want to know when they are wrong.)
Reacting very loudly (laughing, shrieking, etc...) to TV programs.
Isolating.
Doing anything that is slightly atypical in any way (ex: enjoy activity meant for younger people).
Mention a special interest (thus reminding them that you aren't interested in "normal things").
Point it out when they are being disrespectful or rude to you/ tell them that they are hurting your feelings (because your Aspie feelings are wrong).
Not noticing when they wave at you/call you because you are walking with your head down, lost in thought.



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16 Mar 2011, 1:27 am

1. Making "unilateral" decisions.

2. Having a "robotic" facial expression.

3. Not "paying enough attention" to other people. (not quite sure what that means... maybe to what they want to do or just the fact that they exist?).

4. Not being able to "take a compliment". (er, does not compute. I don't give compliments either, apparently. oops)

5. Being "grumpy" and "bossy". This should actually be at the top of the list.

6. Weirding people out with my ranting style of conversation.

The list goes on.