Peko wrote:
Aspies can hurt/love/manipulate, usually they just aren't as good at it as NT's. And yes, I have met Aspies who can do all these things.
I'd say there's different degrees on each of those of how hard it is for us.
Manipulation, like you said, is definitely not impossible. Yet it's probably the one of those three that we find the hardest.
From what I've seen, we seem just as capable of hurting others as anyone else, and have the same range of capabilities of hurting people as nonautistic people have.
As far as love, that's complicated because there are multiple meanings to the word. But general affectionate love, such as between mother and child, is not usually impaired in autistic people. They have done some amount of research showing we do in fact have the same attachment to our parents when young as everyone else. That's overall, of course, and any individuals might be outliers.
Personally, I have hurt people (although I try my best not to, but just this morning I snapped at my mother for no good reason), I have rarely if ever manipulated (and am terrible at it), and I love just as well as anyone else does (both in the affectionate sense and in the ethical sense). Two of the most manipulative people I've ever met were autistic, but they're outliers in the scheme of things, it is very difficult for most of us to manipulate. Hurt and love, not usually so difficult.
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