Why do Aspies have this issue?

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Perhaps you don't but I've seen it come up in books perhaps one can link it to emotional immaturity I'm not sure. The issue is as follows " Emotionally, we require an atmosphere of tolerance and non-judgement." (Simone 30). IMO I'd label it as being "emotionally fragile it's IMO not bipolar or mood issues/depression (although there's depression some what.) It's mainly the littlest thing might get one upset where an NT girl (perhaps guy) would be stronger and not let X bother them. Perhaps they take critiscism or rudeness and shrug it off while I run off to my room in tears. Why do we do this and is there anyone to "become stronger" as I'd call it.

I only know that the older I get, the more curmudgeonly I become.
Thus, what used to drive me to tears now ellicits an anger retort.
Charming, no?

Ahh. I don't WANT to become that way! (no offense) from being "Emotionally fragile scared of even a harsh tone." To not caring/having an anger response is sad. Of course how is one supposed to function at a job/school etc. if the harshist tone elicts tears/run away upset.

Uh... Not an "aspie" trait at all. I am very flat and am the last person standing in any emotional sort of situation. If I saw you run from a room crying, I would call you "weird" and totally not relate. Just saying...

I think a lot of us are fragile to criticism. We might not have the right kind of emotion at a funeral or wedding or emergency, but a lot of us fall apart under criticism. And so do a lot of non-spectrum people. It just seems more likely that we aspies get more criticism.

I've always been extremely sensitive to criticism or any form of meanness, whether real or perceived. One rude comment can bring me to tears. In fact, just the other day my dad and one of his supervisors were talking at their job and the subject of me getting a job there was brought up. They decided that it wouldn't be a good idea because if (and when) a customer was rude to me, I would have a meltdown.

I am ashamed of being so sensitive and I greatly admire people who are tougher than me. I wish there was some way to become tougher. I had kind of hoped that toughness would come with age, but I am still as emotionally fragile as I was when I was a child.

I'm still child-like fragile in my emotions too, except that I've covered it with a wall of jadedness. It fools a lot of people into thinking I'm tougher than I really am, so I can sometimes get a little more respect than I used to have, but I'm also expected to do a LOT more than I use to do. So I may not melt down every time I used to, but it does mean my meltdowns are a zillion times worse than they used to be. I didn't used to bang my head and cut myself when things would go awry. That's a recent thing.

I think that it is a combination of things. I got a lot of criticism when I was growing up. Most of it was mean spirited, and not constructive. Even the constructive things were not presented in a very nice way. Beyond that, I suspect that I would always have been somewhat sensitive.

I don't know if you're serious when you say you run away crying when someone says, "BOO!"
If you are serious then you may have an exaggerated startle reflex, which can be a symptom of PTSD.

YippySkippy, as you said, an exaggerated startle response can be a symptom of PTSD, but I believe it can also be a part of Asperger's. At any rate, I never lost my baby startle reflex, which provides endless amusement to my husband when I don't see him coming up to kiss me and I scream and jump when he touches me.

I meant the "Boo!" comment jokingly. I interpret things said in a harsh tone as "an attack" so to speak so and arguments where I defend myself or an issue end up with my running to my room in tears. Countless days where I've tossed myself onto my pillow in tears. I also agree are emotional/social brain is wired differently.