Eyes

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If aspies have trouble with eye contact and reading eyes, I was wondering if eyes were anyone less important to you? Like in determining of a person is physically attractive or not. I don't consider eyes hardly when at all when I deciding if someone is attractive or not.

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I think that the eyes work well to complement a person's physical appearance, but eyes in of themselves are not attractive. They can be pretty, but I don't think anyone is attracted to somebody just for their eyes.

I'm attracted to eyes that are intense and piercing. Often the same type of eyes that intimidate me, strangely enough.

I personally still have to fight really had to make proper eye contact. Most of the time I make it a game to remember what color the person's eyes were. But right now it is nearing the end of school and so much is piling up that I would rather not look anyone in the eye or I feel like I'd have a meltdown.

That being said, eyes are extremely important to me in attractiveness. They are almost the first thing I notice, probably because I am forcing myself to. It is much harder for me to look at people in the eyes if their eyes are unattractive.

I think you tend to appreciate a person's eyes once you're already attracted to him/her for other reasons. I find it hard to remember a girl's eye color, but I think it's like that for every guy. Eye contact was one of the easiest Aspie detriments to overcome personally; I've been giving proper eye contact since 4th or 5th grade.

i mainly prefer visible, relatively large eyes.
maybe becouse i then can clearly see where she is looking at withoug risking an eye-to-eye stare, but i'm not sure about that.

The only time I notice eyes is in pictures, and then I do find some attractive. In people that I meet though, smile is more important since I actually look at the mouth and never see the eyes. (although all physical things aren't overly important to me at all--what I look for is a guy I can actually TALK to, and who accepts me for who I am. Haven't found that person yet...)