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Venabambina
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30 Apr 2011, 7:16 am

I see him struggling year after year...trying to make friends, make connections with women, and he's so lonely and sad. He's a great guy!! ! He has a great job, he owns his own home, but he's alone!! He wants to get married and have kids. I think if I could get him to join this forum and possibly look at the Aspie Affection dating site and possibly join some local support groups in our area that he might really blossom as a person and stop wondering "what is wrong with me?" Other people have tried to bring it up to him, and he just blows them off. Am I being a meddler? I just want him to be happy. He is breaking my heart. :cry:

Thanks for any advice anyone can give me. Much appreciated.



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30 Apr 2011, 7:29 am

You really must be sure that he might have it, suggest it to him and how he goes about it is up to him, he can pursue a diagnosis or not, just open the door and see what he does.


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30 Apr 2011, 8:02 am

Just because he struggles on the social platform doesn't necessary mean that he's got Aspergers.

The possibility of him not being an aspie is greater than the possibility of him being an aspie.

That doesn't mean that he doesn't have Aspergers. It just means that you (better him) should do some research and find out if it applies to him.
Talk to him about the subject and make him read about it. When reading about it, it suddenly makes a lot of sense for most aspies; like some sort of enlightenment.

If he finds any of what he reads "striking" he should go get diagnosed.



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30 Apr 2011, 8:11 am

Venabambina wrote:
I see him struggling year after year...trying to make friends, make connections with women, and he's so lonely and sad. He's a great guy!! ! He has a great job, he owns his own home, but he's alone!! He wants to get married and have kids. I think if I could get him to join this forum and possibly look at the Aspie Affection dating site and possibly join some local support groups in our area that he might really blossom as a person and stop wondering "what is wrong with me?" Other people have tried to bring it up to him, and he just blows them off. Am I being a meddler? I just want him to be happy. He is breaking my heart. :cry:

Thanks for any advice anyone can give me. Much appreciated.

Get him to check out Aspie sites and connect with people on them. Many people are in similar situations, so they will automatically have something in common with him.