Sharing my blog with family?

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I have thought about sharing my Asperger's blog (link in my signature) with my family, who are neurotypicals. I crave their understanding, I want them to understand what is going on inside my head. But at the same time, they also tend to say that a lot of what I write is untrue - when it absolutely is. They tend to tell me how things are, what is a fabrication, ect. and get upset with me, then tell me that I am upset with them. What I'm trying to say is that I want them to understand me, but yet I am afraid they will find the contents of my blog offending, that it may cause drama in my life. I am sort of looking for second opinions here, I guess.

If you had a blog such as mine, with the goal of sharing your experiences with others, would you share it with your immediate family? Do you think it is a good idea, or do you think that it may be a step in the wrong direction?

Well, you're putting it right out there on the Internet as it is; why not share it?

My family knows about my blog. They don't read it all that often, but they know about it. Don't expect your family to magically understand you because they read your blog, though. They may not read it; they may misunderstand it, just like any communication. But if you're better with writing than talking, this could be a way to get through to them.

i think you should add this post to your blog: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt112787.html then send them the link then they and other people who find it can read it and can REALLY understand what goes on in our aspies heads

I think you've answered your own question. I completely sympathise with your craving for understanding. In fact, I've had a theory for a long time - much longer than I've known I might be on the spectrum - that many writers are driven by a desire to reach out and find others who will understand them. I often think of my writing as tossing a message into a bottle, letting it drift away on the ocean currents, and hoping someone, somewhere, will discover it and know what I was trying to say.

But, sadly, you've already pointed out that your family has read things you have written - and instead of understanding you, they just get so upset they create a wedge which just drives you further apart. (This is fairly typical of my own efforts to be understood by most NTs. Our viewpoints are so different, most people just don't get it. They read things into what I write that aren't there, and overlook the things that are there.) For that reason, I suspect sharing your blog will just drive that wedge further in and make things worse.

I do have a glimmer of hope for you in all this. The one avenue I've found which seems to work somewhat better for anyone on the spectrum trying to communicate with NTs is fiction. Because there is no question of truth, except in a much deeper sense, and because any strange viewpoints are "candy coated" by the story, some NTs seem more capable of understanding what you're trying to say when you frame it in fiction. Even doing that well takes a lot of time and work to get right. And since I don't know anything about your family, I can't say whether they would be likely to respond any better to fiction than to a blog - although, in general, those who know an author are often ready to see themselves in fictional characters that may not even be meant to portray them and that can become a barrier to reading the story with an open mind.

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