sameness in routines and other people you live with

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For the those of you who have the non-functional routines/need for sameness symptoms........do you ever get in fights with your family/people you live with because you're too rigid about your routines?

I watch cartoons (the Simpsons) every morning on the computer while I make and then eat my breakfast/lunch at about 10:30 or 11 am. My mom is a teacher and is usually at work in the mornings. Today I asked if I could have the computer (in the living room) in a half hour so that I could do this. I asked her what she was going to do in a half hour. Sometimes she marks her coursework and then has to have the living room to herself with no noise so I asked that if she was going to mark today if she could give me an hour to eat (and watch cartoons) before she did that. I think I asked very politely. My mom got really angry at me and said that she was only home once every two months and I should be able to adjust to her being home and that she didn't feel comfortable in her house. She was yelling at me. I had somewhat of a meltdown over this and was crying/screaming and saying that it was such a small thing and I asked nicely etc. Then my mom got angry at the reaction and said that I was spoiled and she should have taught me to be flexible and make adjustments fr other people and that my reaction proved that she did have a reason to be upset. I get in fights ( i.e verbal arguments but with screaming) with my mom and sister (the only people I live with) over these kind of things really often. Anyone else have this problem?

Oh, I fight with my family all the time. If something doesn`t go the way I`ve planned it in my head, I just lose my temper. It`s not pretty.

I got into a fight today in large part because of my routines (also other reasons).

I am pretty bitter about it.

It bothers me greatly whenever my wife does something in conflict with my routines, but I keep in mind that she is the one with the job and paying most of the bills here and even my expenses while my only contribution is food stamps ... and so I just "bite my tongue", so to speak, and defer to her for a bit.

I don't know that my routines were ever so macroscopic. More frequently, if I was told we were going to do something and then a change was made in the plans, or if I had planned something my head and a change was made, I would have an issue with it. At least when I was younger.

Now I might get annoyed but I try to make the best of a situation and I try to be respectful of others and not make a fool of myself.


My roommate is very stringent about his routines but he tries to be diplomatic and will generally deviate from them at my behest, though he will do so somewhat begrudgingly.

When we first moved in together I heard him frequently tell me "You're not supposed to (whatever)."

Whatever being take the paper towels into the bathroom. Drink directly from the faucet, walk around with one shoe on and one shoe off, stop alongside a red curb and other minor indiscretions, however he deals with it now.

Absent of my presence, however, he will perform his routines without fail

I hate it when my husband all of a sudden breaks what I am doing abruptly by needing me to take him to get his pills or going out to his brothers and I am the only one that drives and it takes longer to use the bus and train to get to places. But I need time to adjust first before I do anything.

But the rest I have learned to be flexible so I am pretty much over it. I used to get upset when my husband all of a sudden said we need to get groceries and mom told me we just need to pick the time of the week to do it and my husband decided to just let me decided whenever we want to do it.


I used to freak out too if I couldn't get my shower at eight or do my work outs or watch my shows. And also hated when my family interfere with my plans and routine so they had to work around it. But then having DVR solved it, same as when I call my husband from work to record The Simpsons for me because I couldn't always get the TV at work during break time to watch it. That solved my issue too and it was before we got Comcast.

But why must you watch The Simpsons on the computer at a certain time? Can't you watch it anytime since the show doesn't go anywhere and you won't miss it? It's not like it comes on at a certain time and then ends.

Yes, it tends to end most of my relationships lol.

I will tolerate the occasional or rare interruption to my routines, but if it's too often...I will have a meltdown over it.

it's my main obstacle when dealing with my family, because they must live with me and put up with it all.