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11 May 2011, 11:41 am

I myself would not want to kill myself because i have no wish or desire to do so even though i am autistic and cannot function that well at the moment.

i ask this becuase i read up something yesterday in the papers about an 11 year old sevearley autistic boy from wales who was strangeld by his mother with a belt becuase she would rather send him to heaven where he could not be 'autistic' and not have to put him into care or hand him other to the authorities. she herself was not mentally stable and had an abusive husband before and she went from hotel to hotel with her autistic son trying to find him somewhere to live. when she was strangling him he started laughing apparently. the mother then after killing her son dressed him up, lied him on the bed and surrouneded him with his toys. 36 hours after killing her son she slashed her wrists in an attempt to kill herself but did not die and was arrested.

so is being dead really better than being autistic????? my family think i would be better of dead than alive since my dad said "I will come into your bedroom and stab you with a knife you are asleep" that is what my dad said to me last october :(



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11 May 2011, 11:59 am

There are definitely times where I seriously thought about suicide in my teenage years. During those days, I had no friends to speak of, I was failing school, and I had no one around who understood me. I was definitely not getting the attention that I needed from my parents and others at the time. I'm sure glad I stuck around though, because my life is much better now! I've found that a new attitude towards others and myself really helps in my day to day life.



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11 May 2011, 12:10 pm

Wrong forum. Try PPR.

Asking if it would be better to be dead is an impossible question to answer. How do I know what it is like to be dead? If I don't know what it's like to be dead, how can I compare it to my current life? Any answer anyone gives is entirely speculative. Killing someone or yourself based on the idea that death is better is delusional. You can convince yourself that death is better, but only by abandoning reason.


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11 May 2011, 12:38 pm

I'd rather be alive and autistic, than dead.


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11 May 2011, 1:04 pm

Jamesy wrote:
my family think i would be better of dead than alive since my dad said "I will come into your bedroom and stab you with a knife you are asleep" that is what my dad said to me last october :(

He ought to be reported the protective services. What on earth is the excuse for saying something so horrible to your own child?


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11 May 2011, 1:43 pm

my dad said to me tonight "If you feel you can't handle life then kill yourself"



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11 May 2011, 1:55 pm

Jamesy wrote:
my dad said to me tonight "If you feel you can't handle life then kill yourself"

Between that and the knife comment, your dad is flat-out horrible. Since you are of age, then you should try to remove yourself from this situation. If you cannot live by yourself, try moving in with another family member or a friend or, if it really comes down to it, move into an assisted living facility. I say this because I care about you, Jamesy, and I don't ever want you to get hurt.



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11 May 2011, 2:06 pm

IdahoRose wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
my dad said to me tonight "If you feel you can't handle life then kill yourself"

Between that and the knife comment, your dad is flat-out horrible. Since you are of age, then you should try to remove yourself from this situation. If you cannot live by yourself, try moving in with another family member or a friend or, if it really comes down to it, move into an assisted living facility. I say this because I care about you, Jamesy, and I don't ever want you to get hurt.

I agree with this, 100%!


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11 May 2011, 2:20 pm

Jamesy wrote:
my dad said to me tonight "If you feel you can't handle life then kill yourself"


The guy who told you that is not what I would call "your dad". Just some random sperm donor, a toxic person who is making you sick. Is there a way for you to live elsewhere and break contact with him?

I've contemplated suicide God knows how many times, and it's just not a solution. The you that is suffering would not be followed by a you that isn't suffering. Instead, you would rob yourself of any chance to experience the end or at least a reduction of your suffering. You have to either accept your bad experiences or remove their causes. Either way you have to try your best to understand why your bad experiences happen. There's no other choice.


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11 May 2011, 2:44 pm

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my dad said to me tonight "If you feel you can't handle life then kill yourself"



Better homeless, hungry, and living in a cardboard box than warm, well fed and putting up with s**t like that.

You're in the UK, right? Maybe someone that posts here is familiar with resources that might be able to give you a way out.


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11 May 2011, 2:52 pm

If my dad threatened to kill me, I'd call the cops. Especially after multiple occurrences. Obviously your dad is the mentally unstable one here.


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