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24 Apr 2011, 3:28 pm

I mean a cure for autism? Do they even exist? Pleast tell me about any cures you may know.

I dont want to have this turn into a debate about wether or not someone should cure autism, and I love being autistic, so I'll just tell you people why I am looking for a cure:
Short Answer: Love.
Long Answer: I am Engaged, but my Fiance is from a poor home. My parents said that if I marry then that means I will be on my own, for all things. I wont be able to afford my medication without insurance, and I cant afford insurance with what my Fiance makes. If I can cure my autism WHILE my parents will still pay for it, then I wont need to pay for medication when Im married.


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24 Apr 2011, 3:59 pm

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I mean a cure for autism? Do they even exist?



eeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrmmmm...nope. There is no cure. :roll:



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24 Apr 2011, 4:06 pm

Sorry, it is extremely unlikely that there will ever be a cure.


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24 Apr 2011, 5:24 pm

I'm glad there isn't a 'cure' and my parents might have forced me to take it at a younger age and permanently altered my personality and identity for good (shudder.)

In my mid-20's, I couldn't handle becoming for all intents and purposes an entirely new person.

I didn't know about AS until later in life, but my parents would still pressure me hard to accept some sort of cure but i don't think I could virtually "start life again," and have to adapt to a whole new alien personality.



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24 Apr 2011, 5:24 pm

17 is pretty young to get married. maybe thats why your parents put it in that way.

imagine the advice you'd give a 14 year old who wanted to get married. a 14 year old might feel its true love too. but you know from experience they will grow and change as they get older.

why not work out an age you and your parents are both comfortable with for you getting married? he could be your fiance until you get married, and then you'd have the blessing of your parents making it more likely everything works out great



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24 Apr 2011, 5:36 pm

I think it will be much easier to find a cure for cancer or AIDS in our lifetime than it is to find a cure for Autism, especially considering how little people know about how autism words. Plus conditions involving neurology are far more complicated to medically treat than anything else.

The only thing that is remotely close to a cure is a combination of symptom therapy and letting the autistics live within their comfort zone. In other words, both the autistics and the NTs individuals in their lives must create some sort of compromise in order for the autism not to deter with life.



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24 Apr 2011, 5:54 pm

No.



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25 Apr 2011, 6:15 am

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17 is pretty young to get married. maybe thats why your parents put it in that way.

imagine the advice you'd give a 14 year old who wanted to get married. a 14 year old might feel its true love too. but you know from experience they will grow and change as they get older.

why not work out an age you and your parents are both comfortable with for you getting married? he could be your fiance until you get married, and then you'd have the blessing of your parents making it more likely everything works out great


My parents DO approve of this guy, they just feel that marrage means "you start a new family, so stay with them" My parents Eloped to Germany in their teens, So the age thing isnt a problem for them, but the cost of the medication IS a problem for me.


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25 Apr 2011, 7:59 am

You are rather young (roughly the same age as me)... perhaps if you wait a couple of years, by which point you'll both likely have jobs? How severe is your autism without medication?

You could always try the gluten/casein free diet - didn't work for me, but helps some people. What country do you live in? Here in the UK, you can get the foods on prescription... mind, you mentioned insurance, which implies you're from the US of A (European countries, to my knowledge, all have somekind of public health service). Hmmm. You'd have to total up the extra cost of the food compard to how much your medication costs already... I recommend you try it while at home, though.



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25 Apr 2011, 8:07 am

The biomedical treatment for autism has cured/recovered many people or at least helped them a little bit. :roll:



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25 Apr 2011, 8:19 am

Except there's no scientific proof for that, and autistic people who never get biomedical treatment seem to "recover" just as much.

Seriously, what you need isn't a cure--it's education on the skills you are lacking that would allow you to live on your own. Look at the specific issues you have and work on them. "Autism" is just too general.

You have problems. They can be solved. You do not need to cure autism to solve them.

And yeah, I agree that 17 is somewhat too young. You don't have legal independence at that age and it complicates everything. I don't know how mature you are; some 17-year-olds would be mature enough to marry, but most are not. And don't take that as looking down on you; I am 27 and consider myself not yet mature enough to marry.


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25 Apr 2011, 9:33 am

Kimmy wrote:
My parents DO approve of this guy, they just feel that marrage means "you start a new family, so stay with them" My parents Eloped to Germany in their teens, So the age thing isnt a problem for them, but the cost of the medication IS a problem for me.


then tell your parents to get over their likely aspergers and have some empathy for you and help you out! :D



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25 Apr 2011, 9:42 am

What now? AS wouldn't stop you from helping your kid. In fact, material help is the one way that you can pretty much count on for someone with AS to help you, because it doesn't involve squishy, vague feelings that can't be figured out--it's obvious: "She needs meds. I have money. Therefore, I shall use my money to get her meds."

But your parents have a point: They don't want you marrying until you are self-sufficient. And that makes sense. Work on that first--you won't spontaneously combust if you don't get married right now.


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25 Apr 2011, 10:38 am

Callista wrote:
Seriously, what you need isn't a cure--it's education on the skills you are lacking that would allow you to live on your own. Look at the specific issues you have and work on them. "Autism" is just too general.


I have enough skill to be independent from my family, and I will also have help from my future husband with those kind of things anyway. What I'm worried about is how I will cope with Jobs and college if I cant afford meds.

And to "guywithAS" My parents are very proud of me, and they are very supportive of my choices. They just think that I shouldn't need financial aid if I am married.


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25 Apr 2011, 1:36 pm

Saying it straight, in that autistic way - if you can't get a job which allows you to afford meds and live on your own, are you sure it's wise? Especially with all the financial commitments which come with setting up house... get a job, and wait a year or so before getting married; then you'll have a lot of savings stored up as well as (hopefully) a reference allowing you to get a better paid job. If you can't afford what you need while living independently, then maybe you're not ready to do so.

Harsh, yes.



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25 Apr 2011, 1:39 pm

Callista wrote:
But your parents have a point: They don't want you marrying until you are self-sufficient. And that makes sense. Work on that first--you won't spontaneously combust if you don't get married right now.


This. The same thing would hold true for NTs as well.