Moving in with a friend

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The opportunity has come up for me to move in with a friend.

I dislike change, but I think both the cheaper rent and the occasional company of someone else would be good for me.

We have similarities, but he's social and likes to go out. He knows I don't, and I'm sure he'd give me my space.

I've had roommates before, but they were always people I didn't know beforehand and while I survived, it wasn't super great. This time might be different, since he's a friend. I would always have my own room to go to for privacy.

Have you ever lived with a friend? How did it go for you?

I have lived with friends. All that I can say about it is that living with a friend is a sure way to kill a friendship.

Is it an AS thing? My friends seem to be able to do it without wrecking their friendships.

Both times I've lived with friends, they've ended up fiends. Not recommended.

I hope that things go well for you and your friend, with the living arrangement that you have planned.

I've lived with friends several times and had it go well; my best living arrangements have been with friends. I've seen it go well for some other people, and badly for some other people. It can be good, but it's risky, and I don't know how to predict the factors that would make it go well or not.

I feel kind of bad for the above posters. I have had relatively good luck. Then again, I've been very picky about my roommates. One friend started doing drugs and I threw him out, moved in another friend. We had similar interests, though she was much more laid back and much more social. She let me be uptight and homey, and we got along great. When she decided to move out, it was friendly, and I moved in with a different friend. It was more of a challenge, but with a few ground rules, we worked it out. He wasn't as responsible with money, so I took over the rent/utilities, and then it was fine.

You know your friend better than we can. I think that if you don't think you will get taken advantage of, then it should be fine. It's good not to be alone (even though sometimes we prefer it), and saving money is always a good thing.

I roomed with a good friend from high school my first year at college. As Fnord said, it's a great way to kill a friendship. We completely hated each other by the end of the first semester. These days, we're sorta still friends, but don't keep in touch much. And yes, I attribute this to my AS traits.

The next roommate I had was much better. He was the type to keep to himself, keep his stuff on his side of the room, and leave my stuff alone. We were perfectly fine ignoring each other but could also do things together if we both wanted to. The only downside was his lack of hygiene. Luckily, I've always been hypo-sensitive to smells. So, overall, try to get a roommate like this that understands how to respect your space and leave you alone when you want it.

I never lived with any roommates, but I had a friend who's done that a lot and she told me some secrets. Always tidy up after yourself, pick up dirty clothes, wash dishes right away, clean toilet and shower. To make it work even better, clean up your friend's mess, too. Be willing to do a bit more than your fair share of the work, be willing to give a bit more than you take. Don't talk to them too much, don't ask personal questions, keep boundaries, and never lend them money.

As far as I know everybody loves her, and she's not a pretty girl. She's one of the nicest person I know.

Well, he decided to ditch me and let another friend move in.

I'm really worried though, I'm transgendered and I don't want my current landlord to kick me out when he finds out. I know he's not really allowed to do it, but it happens.

I'm thinking of making a post on craiglist or something looking for roommates, because I really do need a cheaper place to live, but then there's the whole transgender thing. Who wants to be roommates with a socially awkward transgendered guy?