Why did my mom lie to me?!

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I am very upset with my mother because i was online to day and someone told me they thought my first diognoses was right and in it it said something about a fgiure of speech witch i thouhgt i only didnt understand when i was younger i got intorested and i looked it up it gave me a list of jokes this is a site: http://www.kidskonnect.com/subject-inde ... guage.html and then what they are meaning before i read the meaning i tryed to see what they were meaning myself and apparently when i looked back at avreything it was all wrong i took avreything like they acsoley ment for exsample: a mile high ice cream cone - a really high ice cream cone... but apparently its a joke i thought it wasnt i thought it was serius. i dont know exsactly what a mile is though. but you think why am i mad? because i never new that..all my life my mom gave childrens work with them Saying in it. And she said i couldnt get harder work because its to hard for me to be doing. And really i think i just relised why because all my life avreything i ever put down onto a paparr about them little saying were wrong so i could never move onto something hard my mother never told me that. And now that she hasnt im 17 teen years old she dosent relise i dont think i can learn it....im ganna be like this forever....is what i just came to thinking...this is ganna be my life...i really do have what they call autism...but to see that to understand that completly now is something i been wanting but hurts so bad to know that its true i have it and i understand it now why me?!
why did she lie to me like that for that long all my life! and was i wright or wrong am i right: A mile high ice cream cone - its just alot of ice cream thats high.... ._. i dont see how it would be a joke Or did i get it wright IM COMFUSED! look at the site help im so mad right now... seven teen now i know why...at seven teen but now will i ever beable to be normle?

Yep. You are right. "A mile-high ice cream cone" just means a lot of ice cream.

The phrase "a mile-high ice cream cone" is a figure of speech. It's called "figurative" because the ice cream cone is not really a mile high. (We still use miles here in the US. It's a distance that you can walk in about 15 minutes. Obviously no ice cream cone is really that big.) Figurative language means you are saying something that should mean one thing (the literal meaning) in order to communicate something that means something else (the figurative meaning). Another example of figurative language is saying "I'm starving" when you are very hungry. Of course you aren't really starving to death; you're probably just late for dinner. But you exaggerate in order to make the point that you aren't just a little hungry--you're very hungry. If I called my ice-cream cone "a mile high", I would be exaggerating to explain that it was a very big ice-cream cone, even though it is obvious that its height is not actually a mile. It's not really "a joke"--though it can be a little funny. It's more of a way of making your language more interesting. It can be difficult to learn figurative language. I learned when I was about twelve, by picking up a book about idioms and reading through it to find out how they worked.

It kind of annoys me that it seems like your mom and your teachers assumed that you weren't any good at learning because you're not good at figurative language. If there's anything I know about autism, it's that you can't predict how good you are at one thing by looking at how good you are at doing something else. Just because you are bad at figurative language doesn't mean you would be bad at other stuff; and I think it is not very nice of them not to let you try other stuff. If you found figurative language you couldn't understand, you could always look it up just like you did today, or ask somebody who was better at it to explain what it meant.

I'm going to be honest here; you'll never be normal--but you don't have to be normal to be happy. There is nothing wrong with not being normal. I won't ever be normal, either, and I have learned that it is a good thing to be who I am, instead of something that other people think I should be. I like who I am. It's not wrong to be different. I think instead of thinking about being normal, it's better to think about what you like to do, what you want to do, and figure out how to do it--what you want to learn, what job you want to do. I'm in college, and where I go to college we have people with all kinds of different disabilities, who aren't normal either; people who are blind or deaf or use wheelchairs, or who are autistic like me, or have learning disabilities or attention deficit disorder. They're all going to school to do what they want to do and they don't have to be normal first to do it. There are also people who have intellectual disabilities who work in the grounds crew, and at the Goodwill store nearby, and they don't have to be normal to do that. I think people just don't realize that you don't have to be normal to do something well.

A lot of the time, other people assume that because we have autism we aren't any good at learning. I don't like that. I think it's just not true. There are plenty of things to learn, and we're good at some and not so good at others, and they ought to let us try lots of things to see what we're good at. It's very important to know what we're good at--that's what will let us get jobs later on.

Yeah, you're seventeen. That's the age when kids are growing up and starting to learn to run their own lives, instead of letting their parents do it. You're doing okay with that. Ask questions. Learn how the services in your area work, and how to manage them for yourself. Sometimes parents don't want to let go, especially when their kid has a disability; but you're going to be an adult soon, and whether or not you'll be able to live by yourself or go to college, you're going to be starting to make your own decisions. That's a difficult thing to learn. But learning to ask questions and find out why things are going one way or another is an important skill.

Why do you want to be normal. To be normal means to be boring. Who wants to be boring?

It's not really a joke; it's an exaggeration.

But yeah, I find that annoying too. Sometimes in school they make you do stuff you already know how to do, and it's boring. That's the way things are.

How much time exactly are they making you spend on this? It almost sounds a little obsessive--there are other important things to learn too. I think maybe you ought to have a talk with your mom and/or your teacher--maybe at your next IEP meeting (do you have those? They're the meetings where they talk about how you're doing and whether you need any help in school) about how you're spending so much time on this when you know you need to learn other stuff.

What subjects are you good at? Talents? Interests? I mean, that's the important stuff; that's the stuff that'll help you either get a job or find volunteer work or do something useful later on when you're an adult. It's your strengths that are important, really, when it comes to preparing for being an adult.