Are there any groups you absolutely CANNOT get along with?

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15 Mar 2011, 12:22 am

For me it's women - sorry ladies.

I don't understand how women's friendships work, and it seems all women have some level of girl hate going on, like women just sit there judging you when you're talking to them. I will admit I am sexist, I even find myself feeling aggressive towards other women, I'm not proud of that. I don't think it is just prejudice full-stop, I think there are aspects of AS there, that because I find it so much more difficult to socialise with women I make myself feel this way towards other women, I get this block preventing me from socialising with them.

Anyone else get anything like this?
How do you overcome this?


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15 Mar 2011, 12:27 am

Eskimos.



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15 Mar 2011, 12:44 am

If you really want to get along with them, try not to let the cattiness get to you. Same goes with everyone else, men and women both. You either have to put up with it or stay away.



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15 Mar 2011, 12:58 am

I will try to get along with anyone, but I understand how you feel about women. I have never really cared for the company of most females. I can't stand the bitchiness and the constant backstabbing. It's insane. The few female friends that I have had either felt the same way, or have "moved on" to different friends. I probably bugged them by commenting on how stupid I thought it was that they would pretend to really like a girl and then laugh and talk about them when they weren't around. That kind of BS really irks me.


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15 Mar 2011, 1:39 am

Humans, it would seem.



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15 Mar 2011, 1:46 am

I don't really have problems with groups so much as individuals, although there are some group behaviors I find difficult, these tend to be about characterizing entire groups of people in terms of stereotypical behavior and then treating them badly because of it.



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15 Mar 2011, 1:47 am

I've never really had a problem with any particular groups, but people who don't seem to have a filter between their brain and their mouth tend to annoy me a lot. The kinds of people who just won't shut up, and have to voice every little thing that comes to mind, no matter how stupid, irrelevant or insignificant.


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15 Mar 2011, 2:01 am

I agree with the OP, actually.

I've always identified more with men (so much so that when I was a teenager I wondered if I was transgendered).
I've never had a close female friendship, merely 2 aquaintances in high school whom I would exchange basic pleasantries with-
I vastly prefer the company of men because I find them more blunt and easy to understand, and less-complicated in their motivations.

I don't care at all about clothes/makeup/shoes/whatever, and in my experience looking pretty, spending inordinate amounts of time and money to look pretty, talking about what and who looks pretty, etc, is what a large majority of women/girls are into.

My mother, a former second grade school teacher of 20-something years, says:

"Boys will punch each other and be done with it, and even friends afterward. Girls will become jealous and domineering of one another, say the most cruel things behind each others backs, and repeat the cycle for YEARS."

She's an NT, but a very astute observer of human behavior, I find.


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15 Mar 2011, 6:07 am

For me, it is teenage boys. Sorry to the teenage boys who are reading this; I don't mean you. There are exceptions. I can certainly think of many who are not so bad. It's just that they run in packs. Alone, they are fine. In groups, they are rude and obnoxious.


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15 Mar 2011, 6:38 am

I'm a woman and for me it's women too. Far too subtle and complex for me. I hate the bitching, backstabbing, two-faced nature of it all.

Saying that, i prefer to judge people on their own merits rather than as a sex or group so my statement is very much a generalisation.



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15 Mar 2011, 6:45 am

No I don't think there are any particular groups I can't get along with.....except maybe Tory activists.

Depends a lot on how long I'd have to keep up the act for.

I seem to get on with women OK, and haven't noticed them being spiteful or catty, at least not when they're with me, except at work about the bosses, which felt rather different to running down your own class. I guess I avoid the more sociopathic type, and I'm not much good at reinforcing other people's prejudices for them. Not so keen on men, they seem more competitive somehow, and they seem to find it more difficult to talk about feelings, though I don't doubt there are many fine exceptions.

There's lots of "groups" I probably can't get on with, but mostly they aren't really groups....e.g. you won't find a whole gaggle of authority figures to have to deal with at once. They're more types than groups.



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15 Mar 2011, 7:57 am

Bethie wrote:
I agree with the OP, actually.

I've always identified more with men (so much so that when I was a teenager I wondered if I was transgendered).
I've never had a close female friendship, merely 2 aquaintances in high school whom I would exchange basic pleasantries with-
I vastly prefer the company of men because I find them more blunt and easy to understand, and less-complicated in their motivations.

I don't care at all about clothes/makeup/shoes/whatever, and in my experience looking pretty, spending inordinate amounts of time and money to look pretty, talking about what and who looks pretty, etc, is what a large majority of women/girls are into.

My mother, a former second grade school teacher of 20-something years, says:

"Boys will punch each other and be done with it, and even friends afterward. Girls will become jealous and domineering of one another, say the most cruel things behind each others backs, and repeat the cycle for YEARS."

She's an NT, but a very astute observer of human behavior, I find.



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15 Mar 2011, 7:57 am

Bethie wrote:
I agree with the OP, actually.

I've always identified more with men (so much so that when I was a teenager I wondered if I was transgendered).
I've never had a close female friendship, merely 2 aquaintances in high school whom I would exchange basic pleasantries with-
I vastly prefer the company of men because I find them more blunt and easy to understand, and less-complicated in their motivations.

I don't care at all about clothes/makeup/shoes/whatever, and in my experience looking pretty, spending inordinate amounts of time and money to look pretty, talking about what and who looks pretty, etc, is what a large majority of women/girls are into.

My mother, a former second grade school teacher of 20-something years, says:

"Boys will punch each other and be done with it, and even friends afterward. Girls will become jealous and domineering of one another, say the most cruel things behind each others backs, and repeat the cycle for YEARS."

She's an NT, but a very astute observer of human behavior, I find.

I agree with everything you wrote.



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15 Mar 2011, 8:01 am

I also have a hart time getting along with the typical female population.


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15 Mar 2011, 8:18 am

I don't have a problem with anyone. Usually I mind my business and do my thing. But for some reason southern white ladies in their 50's and 60's are the biggest jerks to me. They have that fake southern icky sweet tone, all while being 2 faced and twisting my words and even pulling lies out of their butt. It's the strangest thing. I've recently noticed that it has been this particular group all of my life. Maybe they are due some sort of entitlement that I'm not aware of?



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15 Mar 2011, 8:33 am

For me its a specific group of girls at my school, although one member of that group is really sweet, not judgmental and very approachable. I won't say names. It's not so much that I dislike them, its that I can't relate to what they seem to enjoy.


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