eye contact with yourself

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I appear to make eye contact, but I'm really either looking through someone or focusing on their mouth. I've always found eye contact difficult. If I'm having a conversation with someone, I'm usually looking at something else, because if I was making eye contact I wouldn't be able to form coherent thoughts. I can't do both at once.

I have no problem with looking myself in the eyes in the mirror, though. I can also look my cats in the eyes.

Can you make eye contact with yourself in the mirror?

Nope, I can't look at myself in the mirror.
It's uncomfortable because of the AS, and it freaks me out because I suffer form body dysmophic disorder.

I'm not too bad when it comes to eye contact with others, it is uncomfortable but not to the degree that I have to focus on another part of their face or look through them, for me my main issue is that I have difficulty understanding how long to maintain eye contact.

I can't quite work out what I look like, but I have no issues looking at my own eyes.

I love the bathroom (medicine cabinet) mirror. It's the only one I like looking at myself in. I don't like mirrors in public restrooms under fluorescent lights. I won't look at myself in them because I hate the way they make me look but I love my reflection in my bathroom mirror at home and can spend a lot of time staring at myself in it.
So yeah, I can make eye contact with myself in a mirror, just not all mirrors, everywhere. It has to be the one I choose.

As a secondary question that occurred to me, can you make eye contact with other people through a mirror? I don't recall if I ever have.

I can make eye contact with my cats through a mirror (and in general I'm fine making eye contact with them), but I can't make eye contact with other people through a mirror.

You mean if someone is looking at me in a mirror, can I return their gaze in the same mirror? When I see a face in my rear view mirror or side mirrors while driving I get kind of aggravated at them watching me. If I see someone looking at me in one of those mirrors, I try to ignore them.

I have and I do not like it.

I don't have any trouble looking myself in the eye, but I can't look at other peoples eyes in the mirror... well, I can, but I don't like to.

I *can* make eye contact with myself in a mirror.

But it feels weird ... not like I want to look away (like when I do it with other people) but like they're not my eyes, it's not me that I'm looking at.

I know that the person in the mirror is me, but I don't really recognise myself - does that make sense to anyone? Or am I just a little bit loopy?

As for looking other people in the eyes in a mirror ... I don't recall ever doing that.

I come from the opposite end of the spectrum and tend to stare.

If a mirror is in view I have a hard time looking away.

I can make eye-contact with myself in the mirror. In those moments, I feel an air of honesty, I use to talk to myself as if I was a different person to my everyday one. Right into my eyes. Quite suggesting...

I can't look directly into my own eyes. I can't even look face on at a camera! (I think it is because the lens resembles an eye of sorts!) I can look at my eyes in the mirror, but I have to look out of the side of my other eye if that makes any sense... I also look sideways on when I am talking to other people. Annoyingly I have hearing problems and my audiologist helpfully suggested 'look at the person's face when they are talking!'. I'm TRYING!! ! AGGH!

i can *not* make eye contact with myself, be it trough a mirror, an analog picture or a digital picture (off a computer/tv screen); no matter if the picture is as recent as a few minutes or several years old; although this implies actually finding a picture to look in the eyes of; usually i look away from the camera lens as if it were an eye.
i have however nearly mastered the art of fake eye-contact; even close friends of mine, after admitting i dont really make contact dont believe me, and even when they try and find it out; by staring from a few centimeters away, have a very hard time noticing i'm faking it...

Yeah, I can look at myself in the mirror. Because when I'm looking at myself in the mirror, I'm not talking to myself or anybody else, so my brain can devote its processing power to looking in the mirror.

I tend to get into a strange loop when I'm looking at myself in a mirror. It's like, "this is me thinking this thought, but here I am thinking about thinking this thought, so that means I'm not really the one doing the thinking, so who or what is actually doing the thinking?" It drives me crazy so I stop after a while.