Catch 22?

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A lot of you already know about my women/sex obsession problem. The good news is, in person it's not that bad at all, except for the random times I see women I'd like to talk to, which is rare. But when I'm at home, my imagination runs wild...along with looking at naked pictures of women or videos of women walking around nude...skinny dipping...walking around after sex and the like...and also obsessing about this type of stuff 24/7.

The problem is, in person, I'm not any more comfortable...it's just that the women stuff is kept to a minimum. But I have other discomfort as far as social anxiety, the aspergers, complete lack of interest in most outdoor activities...also have to worry about people making fun of me for no reason other than the way I look physically.

So it's a catch 22...stay inside, deal with the hypersexual stuff...go outside...deal with other problems that are just as bad in different ways. Is there any way of escaping this besides death?

I'm sure having a real girlfriend in a lasting relationship and getting what you need would be a great help reducing your obsession with that type of stuff. The question is, of course, how. I know I have a bit odd taste about women, and my strategy is to seek those kind of women. They are usually not the mainstream, so easier to take, in a relative sense. Currently I'm in internet dating, I hope I'll have success sooner or later. Not easy at all, considering the vast number of being turned down.

Girls don't consider physical look that important. They sense how self-confident you are. You have to be at peace with the way you look physically. I'm sorry I don't know much about it, if I did, I would be much more ahead in my life than actually I am.

I think one important thing is to stay faithful to yourself, and only trim your behavior gently to be more acceptable. Chances are, in the end you will find someone who really accepts you the way you are, and you wouldn't have to play a role throughout the rest of your life.

I could care less about having a girlfriend or getting sex. For whatever reason, my brain is obsessed with it. (I'm not sure how much hormones come into play here as well.) I'm an introvert who likes being indoors and away from most people.