Why do I always screw up?

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I'm 17 male with ASD and I don't know why but I always seem to screw up for some reason I don't know why. I can never get anything 100% correct. People would still yell at me and tell me I am doing something wrong on or incorrectly. They would flip out on me if I get the slightest thing wrong. They will go "Dude this was so easy why are you having such difficulty with this?!" And I don't know why I think I am stupid or really clumsy because I keep making the same mistakes over and over again and I don't know why. I try to do good but people keep telling me that I am not good at this or I suck at it. How do I fix my problems? Most of the stuff that they yell at me is for "hands on" kind of activitys.

I can relate to this. My opinion is that you can't change thoroughly these things happening to you, unless you take desperately large measures of efforts.

Maybe your environment expects from you too much, it can be a temporary state or and enduring one. In the later case you should do something, in the former you can't but put yourself over it. Try to get them know you have difficulties and you try but not always succeed. Trivia I know.

Relax, don't take these so seriously, it may help.

You screw up because you're young and you have ASD. It will take you time to discover the right coping strategies, and meanwhile you'll feel like a complete failure most of the time, because when you're feeling the most stupid, that's when you're actually learning the most.

As you become more adept at sussing out people's personalities, you'll be able to selectively avoid the thickheads who yell at you, and gravitate more towards patient, caring people who will try to boost your self-confidence instead of trying to undermine it in their frustration.