What is it like being around another aspie

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I kinda wanna go to a support group.I worry that we will all look similar.I am scared I will be too extroversive.Maybe I should wear sun glasses so my eye contact doesn't upset them.I don't know what we would do.I can tolerate a long talk about the same subject because I had a friend that constantly talked about video games last year.It may be a problem because one day he was like "do you know what made me mad about halo 1" and I was like(out of boredom to spice stuff up) "master chief had gay butt sex with his second on command."I think there I will just talk about any intellectual topic that falls into my head.

This is exactly what I've wanted to know. I wanted to join up for an aspie support group for a while now but I'm not sure what it will be like. I've had two experiences with aspies, the artist down the road has a smart aspie boy who is about 14 years old and I once volunteered to help out the artist down the road with her latest program helping aspie boys (at the time didn't know I had aspergers). That experience was interesting, they mostly talked about themselves and their interests. I have this expectation when I join a support group there will be children and older adults (like 40 years old). I don't expect anyone my age to turn up

I was one time in a support group and didn't like it. Wasn't for me at all. People there were way less functioning than me. I think support groups are good for people less functioning than very high.

I don't think I have ever come across another aspie in person... definitely don't have any friends who are aspie

I've wondered too what it would be like to join a support group, but then I worry about having to interact with them .. or what if I don't like them or find anything in common with the group....

well...with the few people that i have known in person that have AS (2) it was pretty interesting. definitely not boring. we got along pretty well. it was...comfortable.

It's a lot like this but with a little less afterburner.*


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I'm not sure what's meant about too low functioning above. An NT told me it's like being in a room with my (real) family.

It's all right. It's the only social thing I really do.






I would rather they give us paintball guns and be in a paintball fight though.**

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(*I am exaggerating, a lot, or completely. And being funny)
(** it's true, I'm not a big conversationalist)

I started going to a social group last year and it's one of the few places I feel comfortable, it's also one of the few times I actually leave the house.

It's educational. I think everyone who is or who suspects they might be on the spectrum should go out there and meet others. It's the only way short of videotaping your interactions (also not a bad idea, by the way) that you can see what you look like to the rest of the world. That can be humbling (dang! my endearing quirk isn't all that endearing! my discrete stimming isn't all that discrete!), but ultimately useful. If you find people more functional than yourself you may be able to pick up some tricks. Finally, if you have doubts about whether you belong on the spectrum or not, it's a good way to find out. Happy exploring! -- RF

I have a friend who's also a self-diagnosed aspie. A week or so ago I went to a movie and hung out with her, her friend, my girlfriend, and my roommate. It was the first time I can honestly say I had fun socializing. Everyone in our little group was either an aspie or well-acquainted with our oddness, so I felt comfortable and didn't have to act (like I would around most people).

I can't say for sure what being in an aspie support group would be like, but it sounds like something I'd be interested in trying out. And of course, if it doesn't work for me, there's nothing compelling me to keep going.

My best friend is an Aspie and she and I always have fun. I think it mostly just depends on the person... and it certainly helps that she and I share the same interests. We never run out of topics to speak about and there is always lots to do. Other benefits are that the environment is always quiet and the silence is never awkward. We coexist very well.

I've never been to a support for AS, but I did go to one for ADHD. It was all college students and was an interesting experience. I felt that my social skills were much worse than theirs, in general, but I did relate to some of what they talked about.

Being an adolescent with diagnosed AS who attended a public high school, I know all too well... even though I wasn't in any "special education" classes, I still knew who the other people in the "program" were.

Really, it depends on the person/people. There are a couple of people who "have AS" (I really think they have something else...) who completely repulsed me. Disgusting people. I had to deal with them in middle school because they didn't have all of the different class levels (reg., honors, gifted, AP.) Bad hygiene, rude, disgusting behaviors (such as picking of the nose)...
Then, I've met some who are extremely extroverted and all they do is talk to people, no matter who the person is. I'm the complete opposite, so I've never been fond of these kinds of people.
The introverted ones are the ones I tend to like, though I've never really met any... -.-

So, yeah. Depends on the person.
The ones I've met I, in general, have disliked. But I like some people on here.

I have never been to an autism support group but one of my close friends has aspergers as well as my brother in law. I find it easier to communicate with them as I do not have "run" social etiquette "scripts" that I do with normal people. I also find it easier to talk without prescreening my thoughts because the other person is just as wierd as me.

Even though I am not officially diagnosed yet, my girlfriend is a diagnosed aspie and, to me, she seems completely normal. I would never have guessed she had Asperger's if I didn't know already. It's weird because my parents almost instantly saw it when they first met her. (They too already knew of it). And they say we are very much alike in so many ways.

My girlfriend also said to me once "The more you 'get' someone, the less you notice their idiosyncrasies". Which makes a lot of sense as I think it's likely that the more alike two people are, the less they will tend to notice eachothers' quirks as people usually don't notice their own quirks in the first place.

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It really depends on the individual, just as it would be with anyone. I admit that I supervised a temp worker and his contract wasn't renewed by my line manager and I was glad. I didn't know at the time that he had AS (I knew little of it then) and I don't think he knew either, but now that I know about it, it's pretty obvious. He was a very literal person and drove me crackers. He had an obsession about a TV personality and he had a photo of her on his desk, like others have of their loved ones. He also wrote a 6 page letter to a married colleague which had the appearance of a love letter and she was creeped out by it. Some of what he did could easily be attributed to AS, but some other stuff was worrying for the staff.

I also met a lovely lady at an art course, who had obvious AS, although I don't know if she knew. I'd say she was an extrovert, with shy tendencies, just like me. I wish I'd got her phone number or e-mail address as I'm sure we could have been friends, but she stopped coming to the class before the final weeks, so I never got the chance.

Quite honestly, it depends on how functioning they are for me. Most of the LFAs I've met I just could not get along with. I get along better with higher functioning aspies.