When did you start wanting a normal social life...if ever?

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I think Verdandi was being sarcastic there and doing the opposite of agreeing with you, but just in case I'm wrong about that, I would like to express a certain indignation at your comment. Men can be silly, greedy, vain creatures just as much a women can. And considering that women still generally get paid less than men for doing the same exact jobs (in the cases they can get the same exact jobs), it is incredibly statistically improbable that WOMEN's consumerism is the cause of global warming.

Silly boy, you forgot to do your research.

You’ve missed off one option.
The “I have a normal social life”.
I have a normal social life, normal for me, and normal for most of the friends I have. Whether I am as comfortable socialising as they are, I don’t know, but I’m able to fake it with the best of them.
Why fake it? You say! Because if you want what you call a “social life” you have to, in part, become what you are not. Even NTs have to do this. You have to pretend to be happy when you are not, outwardly going when you just want to hide and pull the pavement over your head, you have to ‘join in’ when you really want to be alone.
Even NT’s pretend; they just find it a bit easier to understand that this is all part of the game.

So was I, Bluto is notorious for making comments like that so I was just casually cashing in on the stereotype credits.

Oh. My bad, then! : D Darn internet sarcasm. Always flies right over my head. Carry on! lol

I forgot to bold the part I bolded in this reply. I was replying to that. I wasn't trying to be sarcastic, I was trying to say, "you shouldn't say that because it isn't true. This is actually what's happening." Although my answer was oversimplified.

I have no ill will toward cyberdad, and I am glad he was being sarcastic, even though it means yet again I took something literally.

Sorry got to ease up on using sarcasm. You ladies are quite formidable, I'd hate to be an unwitting misogynist blundering in here brimming with confirmation bias.

When I primary want to socialize but just too nervous for small talk or when I'm in depressing mood and I found my autism to be the problem of my mood.

Between the ages of 21 and 23. Now I just can't be f****d.
I have one friend that I see once or twice a month and I have a few more friends I see once every blue moon and I'm contented by that.
I get to say more meaningful stuff to them online anyway.

I must add I value my online friends more than those offline. The in depth discussions we have about our issues really make it easier to go through those tough times.

soon turning 34, and it hasn't happened so far

I had a lot of friends when I was little they were the kids of my parent's friends. My parents would have to force me to play with them. But from middle school to 10th grade I was pretty much a loner. My guidence councler suggested to me it would be better for me to have friends so I started to hang out with these guys from my art class. What a mistake that was they were a bunch of punks who wanted to be trouble makers but were to cowardly to do or say anything. They talked me into doing a lot of crap they were to scared to do. So I nolonger to seek to belong to any group it is not worth the aggravattion.

I think males are more responsible for global warming though. Males are more flatulent than females.

Not to mention the cows.

It was obvious that I was different from others all my life & I had lots of problems from an extremly early age because I was not like others. I never wanted to fit-in & have a normal social life because I just wanted people to leave me alone. i kind of do want a social life now but I do not want a normal one

I started wanting a normal social life around the time that the first Austin Powers movie came out in 1997. I had it in my mind that I wasn't gong to be a loner just because I was different than most people my age, just because I liked the 60s. I was 22 at the time.

I think it was a puberty thing with me too. I could never understand why something I'd always taken for granted as a young child was suddenly becoming so tricky. I think young kids just get on with playing together without all the social niceties and the hype. My early "social life" was mostly one-on-one anyway....I really didn't notice anything wrong, as long as it wasn't a large group. Then suddenly I felt as if I could fail, and I found myself wandering round at school break times feeling stupid and self-conscious because I couldn't engage anybody. So by then I certainly wanted a normal social life. I don't recall being lonely as a kid. I went through the usual girl-hating phase, but when that wore off, everything was different....it never went back to the original non-sexist thing we had, not at all. Kids are good feminists as well as good socialites.

Not that I'd go along with the word normal here. I want a social life that satisfies my social needs without severely compromising my individual needs. If I ever get that, I'll be able to tell you if it's normal or not.