Something i have noticed on this site!

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I have come across some very nice people on this site that are a pleasure too communicate with, i really have.

But at the same time i have come across some really nasty posters on wrong planet (not going to mention any names). A lot more nasty than bad NT people i encounter on other forums and websites outside of wrong planet.

is it becuase people with AS lack empathy compared to NT's and come across as more mean in there posts? I have met a guy with Aspergers from Sweden and he said to me that "Bad people with aspergers are so much worse than bad NT people" but hey on the bright side he said "Nice people with AS are a lot nicer than the good NT people"

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Possibly. Others might disagree.

There's a range of personalities, it doesn't matter whether he/she is an Aspie or an NT. Also, those nasty posters may or may not have a lot of issues that they end up taking it out on other posters. I'm not sure.

The thing is as well is that even nasty NT posters can forgive and forget. Some bad aspies on this site seem incapable of doing that.

I come across quite a few nasty people on here as well. I had some punks stalk me from another site and I wonder if some of these trools on here are really just them come here to stalk me. One person used to pick fights with me here all the time I said something she didn't agree with. On a thread about what we would do if we suddenly were granted a blank check and could do whatever we pleased with it I said I would get several live meerkats to keep as my pets and she went on to tell me how bad it is to keep meerkats as pets because they are not my specelity....meerkats are my number one special intrest and I know more about them than the people who study them and people who care for them in zoos. But that person was just a bully.

Just for your future reference, if I ever post something too offensive, you are free to tell me about it. I'm remarkably clueless about it.

Just saying...

I remember when i was in disstress once with family issues at home and made a thread about it on this site one female poster made it clear she had "No sympathy" for me and she also criticized me for being repetitive. She also invaded some of my threads and started being abusive too me. likewise on the tv and film part of the site one poster just kept harrasing me and saying some really horrible things too me but that was partly my fault though. i even asked him to drop but he woulden't


i think alot of bad posters with AS can be quite tactless and too blunt in what they say compared to NT people who might beat around the bush more. i can understand as well some people with AS may be having very hard lives and like to take it on other posters

My favorite observation is how many people here like to whine and complain about the little things other people do, and then they describe completely mean and inconsiderate things they do and wonder why people get offended by it. (I am not alluding to anyone in particular, I forget the names of the people involved).

I think basicly some posters with AS are just too obssessed with being 'honest', telling the truth and saying what they think too much regardless of weather it is mean or not. A typical aspsgers trait of course.

If you go onto the love and dating section of this site and say "Females with aspergers have it a lot easier than males with aspergers in the dating world" the women on that part of the site will go abosulty ape s**t because they can't stand hearing the truth. not saying they are 'nasty' or anything but they can become abusive and rude if you post things like that. just another examnple of bad posting experience i have come across on this site.

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I think it's mostly because we tend to go to extremes and keep focussing on things, if things go bad and we're rejected we'll focus on that.

We are not inherently bad people but being rejected, hummiliated, abused all your life can make you a "bad/angry" person, we also tend to be more impulsive.

I'm not telling you should allow such behaviour either, just trying to see it from their perspective (cause I've been there too).

Personally, I would advice you to just ignore such people and not waste your time & energy, if they want to change 1 day they will have to work on that and only themselve can do it.

i know a girl with AS who is not very bright and she really infuriates of a lot of people (including me) becuase she says things on impulse.

i on the otherhand have learned to be more cautious but i can still make mistakes.

I think some of us confuse self-imposement as being a form of self-advocacy.

There is some truth to this. I can be very rigid in my thinking and this can be perceived as rudeness or nastiness, even when there is no hostility at all behind my words. This rigidity is very common among Aspies. If this rigidity sits on top of a hostile and nasty personality, it can be really hurtful.

If I made you or anybody else uncomfortable by my posts, I apologize for it. I know there shouldn't be a cause in the first place, but, this is the way I am, I'm trying to be better, this is no excuse, I know.

I believe there is a large quantity of misunderstanding behind such posts, not that the people who write them are really that bad. They are searching for the truth, maybe they are just too blind doing so...


It's hard to decide. I have a whim, I'm curious how being on the spectrum affects people to show up good-hearted/mean-hearted. Is this an independent intrinsic property of someone's soul or depends on the mental condition? Or on the way they were brought up? Maybe if I knew more people on the spectrum...

I've met less rude people here than I have on any other online forum I've been on. Go figure.

I think on the whole, you don't come across as many people here being nasty as you do on other forums. I said one thing wrong on a general disability forum once and a whole gang of members started being horrible to me. I've never had that here. I am not saying it doesn't happen though because I have had people say nasty things in response to my posts/replies as well.

Well from my experience even bad posters on other sites and chatrooms don't take things too seriously and don't hold grudges.

on the subject of bad people with AS there is this one girl who is suspected too have aspergers that is marrying one of my friends and my friendship group thinks she is pure evil. When my bad side comes out people are repelled by my.

To be honest with you none of you guys that are posting on this thread are bad. the real bad people are the ones avoiding this thread

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