How should I handle this?

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Last month, my best friend Austin revealed to me that things were not going well at home. He said he was being punished for no reason, and his aunt was yelling at him and accusing him of lying. I have met his aunt, and I would rather not be around her. I told my parents about this, and they were as outraged as I was when I finished telling them what I knew. We confronted Austin's aunt about it, and I don't really know how it went down because my dad picked me up for visitation.
When I got home that sunday, even I could tell my mother was fuming. She called a family meeting about an hour after I noticed that.
This is how it went:

Mom: Austin is being verbally abused, I can tell.
Step-dad: Yeah, Michelle (the aunt) was asking him questions that he couldn't answer. He was in tears.
Mom: What really pissed me off besides that is what she said about Makayla.
Makayla: What did she say?
Mom: Michelle said "Makayla doesn't understand what's going on because of her Aspergers.

When I heard that, I was fuming as much as she was. And that was all into next week.

I know exactly what's going on, and I am extremely, and I mean EXTREMELY offended by what Michelle said. I may know what's going on, but I have no idea how to deal with it. What should I do?

Realize that Michelle is a batty old crank who can't say anything right if her life depended on it. Then ignore her with disdain for the rest of your life.

Or, if you are the vengeful type, commit to finding and secretly placing dog turds in her garden or lawn. If you find some disgusting rotting roadkill, you could even place it on her driveway (rotting skunks are especially good).

This is such good advice......but I know myself I find it hard to just ignore people once they have got to me. I completely agree that Michelle doesn't deserve to take up your precious mental space - the sorts of things that help me to get my head back together after something like this include:

- plan a way to prove I am right and they are wrong, and tell someone else to get validation - even if I never bother to engage with the adversary again in person

- plan a way to improve the outcome for anyone else affected ie Austin in your case.

- put some effort into some kind of justice for the problem in hand. An example may be to get involved in an helpline for others in the same position (I'm not sure this really applies in your case)

- plan some kind of revenge, and the details in how to execute that revenge, and imagining the revenge is usually enough to stop be going through with it.....

Now I love this:



Does anyone know where I can get hold of a splatted skunk in the uk?
That would do nicely for my particular adversary right now.

m... there are many good suggestions here. Thanks

Hedgehogs work too. You just need to allow it to mature for a few days first.

Makayla, ignore her. She was being defensive because you are meddling in something you have no right to meddle in. I know you are concerned for your friend, but unless they are breaking the law, it's has nothing to do with you. Well meaning interference can bring out the worst in all of us.

They are breaking the law.

Then report them. But don't get personally involved. Believe me, I've been there, got the t-shirt. Trying to be helpful and getting involved in this type of family mess will lead to nothing but trouble.