Overemotional

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I seem to get overemotional and the simple list of answers for example someone could say: my spelling needs work. I'll get very emotional
to the point where it could really hurt me inside even though the person may not have meant to hurt me even if I knew this. It doesn't make a difference
is this part of having autism because I'm confused no other person seems to be this hurt over something simple but I do why?

Although it's not specifically an AS thing for everyone, I do know a lot of people with AS who get very emotional. I get extremely emotional over things that other people just brush off. Like last week one of our rabbits died at the animal shelter where I work and I cried for hours but everyone else just sort of ignored it.

As for your spelling, ignore the people being nasty to you, I understand what you are saying so why should it matter how you spell it?

I am always emotional and me crying drives my husband crazy and he gets mad at me, because I cry over the least little thing...I can't help it though.

It sounds really pathetic but I got emotional just because the library cafe, where I usually get a coffee around 5pm, was closed for a private function. I headed down the road to subway and there was a queue, and I left almost in tears, simply because I could not have my usual cup of coffee out in town at the time I usually have it.

Being overly-emotional is one of my biggest flaws. That's why my psychiatrist has started me on a regimen of Vitamin B-12. I was doing well for awhile, but these days I don't take it as often as I ought to, so I am starting to have problems again.

I wish I could be cold and logical like Sherlock Holmes rather than feeling as though I am a slave to my own emotions all the time. But on the other hand, people who are in touch with their emotions often create beautiful works of art and literature, which I aspire to do one day, so perhaps I shouldn't complain.

First of all, I see a definite improvement in your grammar, punctuation, and spelling in a little over a month - well done!

Second, I feel that I can never apologize enough for ever criticizing your spelling. You are a smart person, and a nice one as well.

Third (to answer your question "Why?" with my own assumption), you may identify with your written words to such an extent that you perceive any criticism of them as a judgment against your character and your value as a human being - such as I do with the results of my own efforts, whether on the job, in the home, or in a social setting. It hurts me personally when someone criticizes my work, my cooking, or my methods of speaking, and I feel physically ill whenever it happens (although the near-constant criticism I've received on this website seems to be building up my immunity).

Best wishes,

Fnord

Emotional dysregulation is a part of autism, hence meltdowns and such. Of course, combined as it is for many with alexithymia, things can get really odd.

It's interesting for me that you ask this today, because my therapist pointed out that my reaction to certain things was emotionally disproportionate even though I don't notice I'm feeling those emotions.

I get overemotional in many situations. My father was recently talking to me about why I haven't gotten a job, and if I plan on moving out soon (I'm 22). I was completely overwhelmed. At first, I was processing it normally, "Ok, he's got a point. I haven't really been giving my all in looking for a job". It quickly turned from rational thinking to, "Omg, he's calling me a failure, isn't he? f**k, your father thinks your a failure!". I know my father doesn't believe that, but for some reason my brain told me otherwise. I tried to hold it back, but I couldn't. This has happened nearly 80% of the time my dad approaches me about something involving me personally. Now, my father avoids bringing things to my attention. My brothers all tip-toe around me, like I'm about to break out crying or something. Where they used to tease and treat me like just another guy, they're really dismissive towards me. It's really horrible, but that's why I get high, so I can forget.

I can suggest meditation, breathwork, and really satisfying sex as ways to bring emotions into better balance. All three make the others better, too.

It seems like an austism symptom, but people can improve most of their autism-related issues.

I tend to get overemotional a lot of times. There are times that I have a shutdown the moment that I walk into my apartment and than I tire myself out with chores.

that's because I'm using Dragon Naturally speaking which helps me with my spelling so I don't get anything wrong I normally use it for my book's but sometimes I use it for other things

This is also very common in pregnant women and people who have hormone issues so it makes them more emotional.

I only get this way sometimes. I was a little more during my pregnancy.


You may just be a very sensitive person. Some people are just too sensitive so they get offended easily or take things the wrong way or get hurt feelings easily. This is also common with hormone issues and pregnancy.

I do get over emotional, but that's mostly my sister's fault because she thinks it's funny when I get angry.

I'm not overemotional in general. Rather, I react much more intensely to certain things than the average person. I just have poor emotional control overall. Situations that upset most people don't affect me, and vice versa. I once read in some AS book that, on an emotional scale of "1" to "10," Aspies go instantly from a "1" or "2" to a "9" or "10." We just skip all the middle, slowly increasing levels of emotions. This is how I am. If I'm at a baseline mood with no dominant emotion and something happens to excite, anger, frustrate, worry, or upset me, I pretty much instantly have my "switch" go up to a "9" or "10." It's just automatic. My mood swings can be pretty dramatic, and I can go from being in a calm mood to sobbing or throwing things in rage if something provokes me.

Interesting, I can relate to it. Such emotional swings explain at least partly why meltdowns happen, and why so many people seem to wonder about its causes.

I can be hurt over simple things too but the worst is criticism like the OP wrote. I realize that a critique is most likely meant to improve me, but I can't help being emotional about it. When it spills over I overreact or have a meltdown. I've had plenty of time in my life to learn to cope with it, and although I'm much better than I used to be years before, there's still room for improvement.