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From what you say you might be autistc but you might also be just very very shy. There are other things to look at. Do you have sensory issues? Do you have problems with change? Do you have routines and obsessions except mail and girls?
Then the most serious path would be finding a specialist but it's not always easy; to get an idea you can try the online tests, that can help you reason on other symptoms you have to check.

ok thanks Tsukumi,
Change, i don't like in some instances. I can be comfortable going to meet & talk to different new people in my daily routines, but for example if i go the the shopping mall for the first time in a few months, i can be a bit anxious or abit on edge. Change sometimes can be a problem.
But change like visiting a strange country i like, so im not sure.

Any interest i had in my life always tended to be an obsession. But maybe it's nothing to worry about.

As for sensory issues, the only thing i can think of i that when somebody rubs there hand against certain fabrics, i really freaks me out & give me shivers.

Regarding change, it seems to me that some autistics have trouble with any change, but others don't. A more common pattern is being fine with everything being new (eg if you visit a place you've never been to before) but upset if only one thing changes while everything else stays the same (eg going to the family change room instead of women's change room at the pool). I think it's that you have a mental picture of what should happen, and if it doesn't match up with what's happening, you get uncomfortable. But if you have no mental picture of it, then there can't be any mismatch.

you sound a little bit like me when I was at school. I used to drink until I was nearly paraletic before going into lesson, because the hurtful words and constant chair kicking didnt bother me so much then. The speech thing, is a little confusing, see, do you remember, did you not speak because you didnt know what to say and found talking to people was a lot of effort? Or because you found that you always said the wrong thing and were called weird so you decided to just not speak? Or both if its that?

aha, yep..... is a bit strange. Is not easy to pinpoint. I think there is some fear or nerves there but also I didn't know what to say & also it does sometimes feel like a lot of effort.
It seemed as if sometimes everyone was speaking about things that i could understand but had no interest in what they were saying or just didn't know what to say.
Especially the type of sarcastic joking about some tv program or something. That was impossible for me to join in those conversations.

Although i can deal with myself better now, To this day i have that problem, I can push myself to start a conversation with someone, but I don't know what to say.

Almost seems like 4 things
1. Never know what to say.
2. Can be difficult to develop a proper converstation like everyone else or joke like everyone else.
3. Nervous
4. Paranoid - especially if there are a few people listening, i will be thinking what is in there minds as im speaking

It's tough to say. From what you said, it sounds more like a form of anxiety to me than autism. You didn't mention anything other than symptoms that could be related to anxiety. That is just my opinion though. If you think it is important, you might want to meet with a psychologist to discuss the possibilities. But to me, it sounds like anxiety.

ok thanks i was just curious to see what some of you guys thinks, is not really such a big problem for me for the moment.