Do people confide in you more than they do most people?

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I find that I often hear people tell me stories, then say 'Wow, I never tell this to people' or 'I can't believe I'm telling you all of this.' I don't probe most of the time, just listen, and repeat what I hear as I hear to make sure I got it right.

Is this an Aspie trait, or just me?

Could it be that Aspies come off as innocent, harmless, and often, not super social, so unlikely to repeat it? I talked of this in a previous post here. Or do Aspies listen and respond differently than NT's to these kinds of things? I notice this a lot with semi-strangers, not just people I know already, so it's weird upon first meeting someone, she ends up telling all her black book secrets, or he tells about how much he wants dad's approval.

It's true for me. One lesbian classmate just came out to me and a couple of my friends. I find myself listening to them quite often but i can't really sympathize well so I just nod. Maybe they tell stuff to me because I'm not loaded with crap.

I never noticed this actually. That's probably because nobody ever expects me to be listening.

I don't know if it's an aspie trait but it happens with me too.
For me it's probably because I don't react to much and am very open about myself since I don't have much of a filter.

And I don't go blabbering about their personal matters. But one weird thing is that when you actuallytalk to me it'll be like talking to a rock, according to one friend. Maybe some people like to talk to rocks.
Dialogue...
Friend: hey Jamie I just got this really cool gadget, and I got it real cheap(blah)
Me. (nod)
Friend: (continues)
Me(nod)
Friend: what's wrong with you?
Me: nothing. I'm listening.
Friend: good god you don't respond!
Me: let's talk about the weather.

Yet they keep talking to me.

People trust me with their secrets they say because I don't go telling everyone else...

Yes this happens to me, mostly because I am an understanding person and try not to judge people without knowing them personally.

Yes....so much it hurts at times . I might feel overwhelmed internally, but often get 'locked in' and find it so hard to extricate myself......its like being a moth to a flame. I always thought this was because I ached to be loved and feared abandonment, but I can see now that because of how my AS. Plays itself out in me ie showing no external reaction others feel deeply and non-judgmentaly listened to.

This happens to me a lot at work. I've kind of gained a reputation as the person you can go to vent your frustrations to. I'm guessing that it's because I never turn around and talk about it to others.

I don't mind listening to people, but sometimes I get a little uncomfortable when one of my co-workers is talking badly about another. I don't join in, and just try to give neutral responses.

lawl, not at all. However, I do seem to effectively induce other people to talk about the miseries in their life. I can't help but feel that's probably because I have a "miserable" personality.

Once in a while. I'm pretty gentle and non-intimidating. I'm also open about sharing my own problems to the right people so then there's some give and take.

People confide in me all the time. I think that NT's see me as a blank canvas, and they want to project themselves onto me. Also I rarely make small talk, so I think people need to fill the silence and the easiest thing to talk about is themselves and their problems. Just a theory.

Yes, people often feel comfortable talking about personal things with me.

People always tell me personal things & confide in me, i think it's because i tell people everything about me, so they feel comfortable to talk to me.

i don't know. confiding is confidential therefore i do not know how much other people do it to compare.

I have had people confess to me about cheating on their spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend. I also had a gay guy come out to me as practice because he knew I did not talk to anyone at work or knew any of his family he wanted to see what my reaction was and how I reacted. I told him I barely knew him his parents or our co-workers might have a different reaction.