I'm still not sure where I stand on the spectrum, I'm waiting for the professionals to evaluate me. With as much as I could learn about it, I'm very likely to get a diagnosis. I think I'm already over the initial shocks of it, the temporary loss of self-esteem, self-confidence, and faith in myself since its discovery in February, just before turning 38. After many struggles with my emotions, a series of mute sobs, re-evaluating my strengths and weaknesses, deeds, habits, I'm ready to benefit of this newly acquired intelligence.
I'm still searching for better adjustments in my behaviour, and I'm yet to do a good deal of experimenting by trial and error until I could say I'm satisfied. I'm looking forward to make good use of it especially in one romantic relationship.
I'm not afraid to think of it as a kind of retardation, I can see that from the outside it might seem so. I have been called many times half kidding/insulting half seriously so, if I assume that the R word can be translated to what I think it should in Hungarian. I have taken it lightly most of the time, so every time I accidentally used this word on someone else, I didn't realize how much it would hurt their feelings. 
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Another non-English speaking - DX'd at age 38
"Aut viam inveniam aut faciam." (Hannibal) - Latin for "I'll either find a way or make one."