Longterm life strategy?

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31 Jul 2011, 5:37 pm

Hi

Do any aspies have a long term strategy for their lives? I mean most NT's it seems have the idea they will get married, get a mortgage, have kids etc. Or some may think more in terms of career or personal goals.

But I don't think I have ever had a life strategy. My strategy is to work out what I am doing year by year and have never thought ahead longer than that. I am wondering if this is normal for AS.

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31 Jul 2011, 5:47 pm

I had a strategy like this as a kid, go to college, get a job, get married, have or adopt kids, but nothing worked out as I planned.

I'm not working in the kind of job I thought I would be. That frustrated me at first but now I have excepted it and just go with the flow and am going back to school to study something more along the lines of my current job.

I haven't gotten married. I haven't even had a long term relationship so in that regard I have totally failed.

That means no kids.

I don't make enough money to buy a house.

My plan hasn't worked out and I need a new one. In therapy I sometimes have to work as not looking at myself as a failure.

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31 Jul 2011, 5:55 pm

I kinda sort of used to......but yeah I really have no idea. I am going to college but I have no idea what I will do with a degree if I do manage to get one.

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31 Jul 2011, 6:07 pm

Sure.
1. Study special interests.
2. Become excellent at special interests and earn a living from it.
3. Develop new things/ideas relating to the special interest that nobody has done or thought of before, and make something (i.e. create invention) or write books (i.e. publish ideas) about it.
4. Die having contributed to the special interest.

Step one and two are full time affairs for me now. Steps three and four are in the pipeline. You take away my special interests and you take away every trace of hope, ambition, or happiness from my life. Belief in God is also important to me and gives me strength -- I know He made me like this, and I'm going to make the best of it.

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31 Jul 2011, 6:20 pm

I believe I'm more of a live life day by day person myself.

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31 Jul 2011, 6:23 pm

Try not to die.

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31 Jul 2011, 6:35 pm

I can't even come up with a plan for what I will be doing tomorrow! I rarely think about the future because I am already too caught up in the present.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:04 pm

oceandrop wrote:

Oceandrop, I like the cut of your jib.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:18 pm

I go once a year (around my birthday) to plan my future and reflect upon the past year. I have an overriding goal for each decade of my life for the next 30 years and have done this for the past 20.

30's - climb in my career
40's - Learn/grow ME (the "ME" decade)
50's - Leave my legacy
60's - Begin a new career
70's - climb in my career
80's - (perhaps retire?)

I have very specific milestones for this year that will take me to the next decade goals. Each day, when I am floundering in what to do, I only have to think of my year and decade goals and "what to do" all of a sudden makes more sense. I believe in being empowered in this life instead of being a victim of life. Without planning and intention one is a vicitm.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:26 pm

I've learned not to make plans. Every time I do, I get kicked in the balls.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:27 pm

kfisherx wrote:

I have very specific milestones for this year that will take me to the next decade goals. Each day, when I am floundering in what to do, I only have to think of my year and decade goals and "what to do" all of a sudden makes more sense. I believe in being empowered in this life instead of being a victim of life. Without planning and intention one is a vicitm.

Maybe maybe not, not everyone can say for sure where their life will go.....does not nessisarly make them a victim, though i would argue if someone has to go through hell every day just to live they are a victim of whatever it is that is brining them down.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:29 pm

johnsmcjohn wrote:

I've learned not to make plans. Every time I do, I get kicked in the balls.

You should plan to get kicked in the balls.

At least that way, you would be successful in some way.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:37 pm

I have certain things I want out of my life, but neither a schedule for getting them nor much of a plan for how to make them happen. At this point I'm pretty much down to trying to be very specific about the things I want and then breaking them down into tiny doable steps in order to get there.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:39 pm

Jory wrote:

johnsmcjohn wrote:

I've learned not to make plans. Every time I do, I get kicked in the balls.

You should plan to get kicked in the balls.

At least that way, you would be successful in some way.

That's hilarious.

I actually have lots of plans. Not only plans, but secondary backup plans too. I can't imagine how it's possible not to carefully plan everything out.

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31 Jul 2011, 7:43 pm

I have some goals set that I would like to accomplish.. but theyre there to give me some sort of direction really.. theyre related to what Im interested in.. so whether or not I achieve my goals I will be doing what I like

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31 Jul 2011, 8:15 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:

kfisherx wrote:

"whether you think you can or you can't you're right" (Henery Ford)
Nobody said that you can plan each and every detail and make it happen exactly as you wish. BUT there is a reason why those who are succesful all preach that "you are what you believe." If you believe nothing and plan nothing then do not be surprised when you turn out to be "nothing".

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