is it difficult for you to say no to someone?

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07 Aug 2011, 3:47 pm

more difficult than it is for NTs? i've been taken advantage of horribly as a child, over and over again. now i've learned to steel myself and so no when someone asks me to do something, or even if someone wants to talk to me and i don't feel like it. i walked home with a co worker and she stopped to talk and i thought it'll be rude to say i'm tired and want to go home, because i got off work real late.
is this an aspie thing, or is it just me? do you have a problem hanging up and would rather the other person hung up, or ended the conversation and walked away?

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07 Aug 2011, 3:52 pm

No.

See, I just did it. If anything, I find it much easier than the average NT to say no to someone.

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07 Aug 2011, 3:55 pm

Not at all. Used to though.

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07 Aug 2011, 4:23 pm

No.

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07 Aug 2011, 4:38 pm

i'm getting better at saying 'no' and i'm learning when to draw the line.infact i refuse to reply to your thread...oh...welll never mind.

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07 Aug 2011, 4:49 pm

Nope. If it was, I'd be somewhere on the streets of Portland, begging for food and water, or dead. No is the best gift I've ever recieved.

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07 Aug 2011, 4:52 pm

Yes. I have problems with saying no and often feel guilty if I do say no, especially if the demand wasn't completely unreasonable.

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07 Aug 2011, 5:01 pm

It was hard for me to say no, but I think it is becausemI was raised that way. A "no" was not an cceptale answer. You should always say "yes", and be polite despite your feelings. I had to learn by myself to say "no". And it is not an issue for me anymore. It is better to say no that end up doing things you do not want to do because ou did not have the courage to say "no". You can always add a "thank you" at the end, so it does not sound that bad.

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07 Aug 2011, 5:22 pm

Nope. Dang, I guess it is...

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07 Aug 2011, 5:29 pm

N-n-n... Yes.

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07 Aug 2011, 5:32 pm

felinesaresuperior wrote:

Post subject: is it difficult for you to say no to someone?

No.

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07 Aug 2011, 9:10 pm

Yes.
I am way too eager to please, so I often will say yes just to make everyone happy.

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08 Aug 2011, 12:02 am

yes! i just can't brin myself to it. I also have trouble admitting when I'm not familiar with something, even if it's totally insignifcant.

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08 Aug 2011, 12:19 am

Yes, I always have trouble saying no for fear of how others will react.

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08 Aug 2011, 12:22 am

peaceloveerin wrote:

Yes, I always have trouble saying no for fear of how others will react.

Will you say no, please?

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08 Aug 2011, 12:23 am

anneurysm wrote:

Yes.
I am way too eager to please, so I often will say yes just to make everyone happy.

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Yes, I always have trouble saying no for fear of how others will react.

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yes! i just can't brin myself to it. I also have trouble admitting when I'm not familiar with something, even if it's totally insignifcant.

That sums me up

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