My dad might possibly be a Narcassist

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For awhile, I thought my dad might be on the autism spectrum, but it didn't add up because he did fine in social situations. I entered some of his personality traits into a google search, and came upon Narcassism. He fits in with these:

Inflated Self-Importance - He finds ways to make anything related to him more important than others.
Egotism - He only wanted me at his house because it made him look like a good parent.
Vanity - Before he met his second wife, he would often ask out women, saying he was "perfect in every way", and "you won't be sorry".
Conceit - He believes his opinion is always the best one.
Selfishness - He's never taken care of me, or taken the proper initiative to be a good parent.

Any thoughts?

Sounds like it. I posted this video before.

Listen to it. Does it sound like your dad?
I had a few acquaintances that were narcissists and one said things similar to this guy just not as much.



[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvwN9Qy3SEs[/youtube]

The men bragged like this guy.

The female narcissists always had to look good for others. Didn't care about their own child unless they could see them as extensions of themselves. Would up talk themselves then gossip about other women and insist the other women were these horrible people even though you could tell that person was lying after watching the other woman she was talking about. Likes to divide and conquer. Puts you down sometimes in a subtle manner only you can pick up on and then it gets worse.

Possible, but even if he is, there's nothing you can really do about it. Unless he ends up in a narcissistic crisis, he's not going to ask for help.

Hope he's not the abusive type. Is he?

Aww hugs!

I have found narcissists and sociopaths to be the absolute worse freaking parents ever!! They only love you for being a different child if it means they get attention for that moment you are around then behind closed doors...out comes the evil.

Now they are trying to pretend sociopaths and narcissists are aspies.

Yay, not only are we bullied by these jerks, now they are using us as their scapegoat.

All of his relatives are normal though... Maybe he has a very pronounced personality disorder.

My dad could possibly be a narcissist too.

But, in his defense, what he says about himself is actually true.

Does he fancy himself (and is he a bit of a knob)? Then he's a narcissist. If he doesn't he's not. God knows what this stupid personality disorder people are calling Narcissistic is but it's getting on my nerves hearing people try to redefine a perfectly ordinary word that's remained more-or-less constant in meaning for two thousand years. ^^

Unfortunately, most narcissists don't seek help and confronting your dad will probably make things worse. Try to find a support group for family members of narcissists.

I'm really sorry. I can't imagine what it would be like to live with someone with a personality disorder, especially a narcissist.

Do you live with your dad or only visit him?

My dad is bipolar and refuses treatment. He can be a lovable guy one moment and the next he is an unreasonable, spit screaming tyrant. It is different than narcissm but nonetheless, it is difficult to live with people who are so self centered.

The best thing to do is not confront him. Maybe he will get the hint once you are on your own and never visit him.

I think not visiting him is a good idea.

I hadn't really looked into narcissism before this. I think it was really good for me to, as I think recently I've interacted with someone who's borderline diagnosable and ended up in a terrible shape. I probably shouldn't tell anyone but even knowing that might help me figure out how to avoid him hurting me better.