Am i taking this out off context?

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Last night i blew up over a small thing when my dad came home from work. Infront of my father i screamed and even through a chair (not at my dad) at the floor.

My mum came back from too screaming as well. I overhead my dad say in the kitchen after my tantrum "That is autism" and "James has got extreme autism"

I understand my behavour was appaling because usually i woulden't chuck a chair on the floor or bang the table. I its offensive too me when my father says i have 'sevare/extreme autism" because i do have a group of friends that i go too the bar with and i went too a normal mainstream school and college in the past. i can look after the house as well and go cycling by myself.

YES i admit i do funciton much better when i am by myself since small things about other people can make bother me and impair my functioning. And YES my behaviour is stereotypical and i have routines/rituals that i do on certain days. My behaviour around my parents is steretoypical as well.

this is someone with extreme autism and can you picture them going too a normal college or school? Do you understand why my dads comment was offensive too me?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pJ63XDpByg


What do you make of my dads comments? i think the point my dad was trying too make is that when i lost my temper i displayed symptoms of extreme autism like handflapping etc......


could it be that i am so in my own world and lost contact with reality. that i 'imagine' that i look after by myself and go out with my friends?

You are not taking the your dad's comments out of context. That you've taken offense seems odd to me, especially if you actually do have autism - if what he said is true, then why be offended?

Because people with extreme autism can't even go too the toilet by themselves and i can look after the house and go out with my friends.

so tell me why i have extreme autism then???????

Is it that you think that your behaviour was appalling, and should be recognised as appalling, that you're man enough to take the consequences and not dismissed as part of a condition like extreme autism?

SilentScream i just can't belive people think i am extremely Autistic because they have too wear dipers and head protection too stop themselves from injuring themselves and that is simply not the case with me.

Is there something that i just don't know about?

Also what do you mean by consequences Silentscream? I know i have got 'autism' and that is what causes some of my bad behaviour.

If you were NT, and behaved like that, there would be unpleasant consequences to you.
Your parents were trying to excuse your behaviour, putting it down to a condition. They were trying to figure out whether to punish you, or to let it go as something you could not help doing.

So either you can't help it, because you have a condition, and so should not be punished
or you can help it, even with your condition, and you should be punished.

I my parents die as a consequence of my behaviour my siblings will beat me too a pulp or even DEATH.

Can you understand why i am really frightend at the moment because off what my behaviour is going too do? I am not a man and i am just a little boy really. i am just in a mess at the moment.

Would you have felt better if your father had said that you were "a bit autistic" or just "autistic"?

Yeah i would have felt beter i they said that.

but the point is SilentScream is that my brother has a violent streak about him and if my parents get ill and die i am scared that my brother might do something VERY bad too me because he is vindictive.

He told me as well that he does not even care if i am autistic.

Your brother is another problem.

The first problem is what your father said. This is where you can learn survival skills
It's a bit naughty, but you were getting away with something there, someone saying that your condition is worse than it is.
The violent behaviour you exhibited was a "very" something to your poor father. So he was just voicing his concerns, and it was an outlet. The implied meaning (which us WrongPlaneters don't tend to get) is that he had decided to let you off the hook.

Basically, be grateful that this time, the mislabelling worked in your favour

The time to get upset/insulted is when someone is taunting you.

Your Dad is not saying you can't cope and do all those things. I don't think he means it literally.
He is probably saying it because he is upset/doesn't know how to deal with this behaviour.
He may not be literally saying you have extreme autism. He may be saying your behaviour is autistic. He may not be as aware of all the definitions as you are and be muddled up, or be less precise as he is not thinking clearly as emotional.
He might be using it as a way of lashing out like people would swear or call people names in the heat of an argument without really meaning it.

Silentscream you have too understand why my brother MIGTH be my biggest worry at the moment casue he has done some nasty things too over people out of revenge.

what should i do about the problem with my brother?

Jamesy, I am not ignoring you, I am going out soon, so maybe someone else can help you in the meantime with your worries about your brother. There are many options there, that maybe you can't see at that moment.

BUT do you realise that you started the thread about another question, which I was answering?

take breath
take nother breath

understand that dad might mean well in trying to understand you
vent frust about it anyway cause for you it is unfair
go run, scream, someplace that is quiet
if there is no place, go to quiet room and hit couch

aplogize to couch

watch your brother, try stay off his radar

You had a meltdown.

Your dad said what he said because 1)He's angry or 2)He's ignorant.
People tend to say things out of nowhere when they're angry.

Don't take what he said too seriously.
You seem to me like some who has AS and anxiety, from the many posts I've read of yours.