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So i have AS. A psychiatrist told me so a month ago. Now whenever i bring up AS, which unfortunately is like a gazillion times a day because it is currently my special interest, my mom shakes her head and says...
no, you dont have AS.
what can i say?? I mean, it's obvious as long as i'm not trying to hide it, and its in the family too. My dad has like a thousand books on chinese history and for crying out loud he's an editor for a newspaper! And my cousin spends the entire dinnertime hiding under the table staring at wood grains. My mom herself has sensory issues and stuff, so iin my opinion it makes perfect sense for me to have AS, and it's not the end of the world!!

So why deny?? After half an hour in the psychiatrist's office, he told me AND my mom that I have Asperger's Syndrome. She's not deaf...but how should I educate her??

Tell her thank you for her expert opinion and that you'll let your psychiatrist and all of his professors know they are all idiots and they should instead let your mom diagnose everyone.

I have had this happen as well with close friends I have told... they respond "no you dont" or "you are not autistic".

It hurts my feelings because I feel so relieved to have answers finally to WHY my life is like this, and why my experiences are so challenging, and it is like they want me to go back to having NO answers because they are uncomfortable with the label. I am not uncomfortable with the label at all, without it, the only answer is that I am crazy and horrible at life. As I cannot totally lose these people from my life at this time, I have chosen to simply not discuss it with them further, and they can ignore me if they want to when I have to talk about it (in my blog or whatever where I am going to talk about it whether people agree or not).

It would be hard with a close family member like your mom. I keep reminding myself that it is real whether my friends believe it or not.

I wish you the best of luck. Maybe you could print out a list of details from your experiences that are indicators of AS? I have a huge list of things from childhood, teenage, and adult or ongoing experiences that are all unusual.