pree10shun wrote:
That is the first thing people notice about me...
people: "Why do you look so tense?"
Me: "I don't know."
Them: smile at me in a patronizing manner(and prolly wonder how someone can look so tensed.)
Me: (Thinking to myself) Are my feelings that obvious?
I am thinking it has to with balancing myself. I feel more in control when I am all rigid. I also worry a lot all the time so I have a tensed look almost always
your tension is probably in your face - I used to have a lot of tension there too (when I looked in the mirror I had an expression like I'd just seen a mass open grave or something). What has helped me is to completely tense the muscles in my face, as if I'm doing an insane smile, and hold for, e.g. a minute, and then relax...and the tension goes away...I do that nearly every morning now and it's made a huge difference.
I still have a lot of tension in my legs and arms and try similar tensing/relaxing exercises although it hasn't worked as well in those areas (maybe because they're a lot more tense, I don't know).