Has this happened to you? People posing for photos with you.

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Have you ever had people - people you don't know I mean - wanting to pose for photos with you or wanting their picture taken with you? Without having anything else to do with you that is, besides the photo taking.

A post I saw on another forum mentioned in part this subject and it intrigued me. I made a spate of nightclub visits last year and on one visit, I remember at least three groups of girls coming to me to pose for photos with me. I wondered what was going on. It happened another night at another club too.

The poster talked about how girls in clubs flock to, for example, the amputated m***et in a wheelchair to pose for photos with them. This is so they are not seen as shallow. Have you ever seen this happen? I'm not amputated, or a m***et, or in a wheelchair, but of course I am nevertheless in a disability situation myself. I guess the posing for photos is a sort of backhanded compliment, as maybe people think I look like a fish out of water in a nightclub and all it entails. Like I said, it's nightclub/party girls trying not to be seen as shallow, as they would be ashamed if they are seen that way.

The poster also suggested it was a way of exploiting photo opportunities with people they think look disabled or whose face doesn't fit, to help them try to become the next big thing, having photos where they look philanthropic. Never thought of it like that.

Also, I well remember it happening on one occasion on a bus, where teenage girls sat in the seats surrounding me. Quicker than you know it, the girl beside me posed with me and a camera suddenly came out taking a picture. This was worrying, and I got off the bus immediately, so that they would be unable to take any more photos.

What you have said could be the case. However have you thought these women may just find you attractive? I know people who go out to night clubs etc and compete to have their photo taken with as many good looking men as possible.

BTW, you don't look like any famous do you? I went to college with someone who looked very much like David Beckham and he was forever being stopped and asked to be in photo's with people.

Are you sure you're not being teased? I hate to say it, but when a bunch of idiotic, drunk, club girls take a picture with a m***et, they are making fun of him; they're not trying to be philanthropic or show how "deep" they are. This could be the same thing in your case.

^That's the worst case scenario, the only other thing I could think of is that you are extremely good-looking and/or people think your famous.

Yeah I just think the teasing scenario, although the worse case, is closer to the truth, especially the incident on the bus, than the attractiveness/famous scenario. If it was because I looked like someone famous, I'm sure people would tell me who it is. I'm not unattractive but still not extremely attractive, not so much so for this to be the reason.

Case in point - Newcastle in South Down, Northern Ireland. This drunk fella came running out of a bar and asked me to take a photo of him and his friend:

I'd say you were either right about them doing it to get some politically-correct credentials, or they genuinely found you interesting in some way, though I've no idea whether that would be on account of your being particularly attractive or unattractive. Young people out on binges with cameras in their mobile phones are often hungry for souvenirs and momentos of their ripping adventures.

That's because a lot of them are, and sometimes malicious with it. It's only for their own ego - the person on the other end is irrelevant; this sort of behaviour comes across as juvenile and invasive.

Different sort of scenario to the incidents in nightclubs etc., similar to the way I sometimes get asked by tourists to take pictures of them, which is a not at all shallow thing.

It is different, you're right. Most of the time people like that are respectful.

I don't mind that, not at all. The people asked me if they could buy me a pint after. I politely declined as we were hungry and they'd been drinking heavily.

I don't know how other disabled people pick up on these incidents but I suspect that their thoughts about it aren't positive as it's basically treating them like a medical diagnosis rather than a real person.

Grab a tit or an ass right before they snap the photo.

^^^ Exact PAYMENT for their rude photo taking habit... If they didn't ask first, why should you?

No, but I sometimes see girls snapping shots with cellphone cameras if my shirt is off . (I guess since I'm in the sport of bodybuilding, it causes that...) I don't think I'm that great-looking, and I'm not doing anything that should attract attention, so I'm a little surprised and even flattered when it happens.

Charles

ROTFLMAO!! !!

When I was at Hamvention last weekend, I had several people ask for my picture, or a picture of my kilt pin.

That happened to my group and I when we went to an Olympic curling event last winter. Some Americans posed with us and someone from our group took the picture.

People might be using you as a stepping stone to other people. If people see them in a photo with someone else, they might want to be with them that much more. kind of like the NT herd instinct.

I did the exact opposite one time to get people off my back. I am gay and years ago I was terrorized for it by all the guys where I lived. But these same guys were messing around with each other far more than I have ever done in my whole life. I told my stepdad about it and he told me that what I needed was a girlfriend... of sorts... just to make the guys think I had a GF. His good looking granddaugter was coming to visit so he took a picture of her arm in arm with me and gave me the photo joking about how she was my new "girlfriend". I simply showed this photo to all the guys and they bought it to some extent, but never truly wanted to believe that I was no longer available to them.