Do you embarrass yourself at school or work?

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I find that when having a conversation with someone, I tend to automatically start speaking when he/she does instead of waiting for a pause. I've also interrupted my peers. After class I went to talk to my old roommate. She was talking to another student, but I butt in with whatever I had to say.
Then when I need to speak to a professor who already has students waiting to talk, I skip the line. Then I remember it's not my turn and quickly make my way to the end of the line. I feel so unintentionally rude.

I also embarrass myself by picking at the skin around my fingernails in class. It's my stim and I can't stop. However, people tend to think I'm bored when I'm actually not. Then there's the whole deal where the person next to me sees how horrible my fingers look and ask what happened. My doctor once told me to stop before I get an infection. If only it were that easy.

I feel for you. I had the same problem. You can learn this kind of stuff. Try to pay attention to the others you will find out that this is hard and frustrating, but there is nothing more rewarding. Also try to exist otherwise than by speaking. I used to have the problem you have: I flet like speaking was the only way I could exist, the only way the other could notice than I'm here, that got me speaking to loud, inapropriatly, being uninteressting and rude with all the social consequences than follow. Try to look what around you, feel good in the place you are. Think twice whenever you say something.

For your trim, that's another problem, I also have a trim, but I can hide it. That's gonna be another challenge to get rid of it, or at least to hide it.

I think its part of being aspie, we always embaress ourselves over a billion small things. Unless we dont interact with anyone and stay super stoic in our in little worlds, I dont know how you can be aspie and not embaress yourself alot. Im a fairly subconscieous person and its difficult, I keep beating myself up over the smallest things. Especially calling my manager by the wrong name... . I get embaressed about things I did 6 months ago, I hate that I have a good autobiographical memory because it eats me up over past faux paus. Im able to look back and detailed memories and reconstruct what went on and interpret thru more social awareness and see what I did wrong

Certainly I act inappropriately at times, but why would that embarrass me?

Dont give in to your behavioural problems.

Make a real effort to STFU and you will be fine

I guess I may be lucky that I have friends who tell me to STFU

I would avoid caffeine and sugar, when in company for a while, to retrain your response. maybe even take a calmative herb like kavakava, chamomile tea, valarian or such

I've said some things what nobody else would really say, when I was at my volunteer job at a charity shop. Once when the manager gave me some children's books to put out on the shelves, and I stepped out of the stock room with a pile of books in my hands and saw a woman with a toddler near where I wanted to go (the toddler was sitting on the floor taking out little toys from a box one by one and placing them in a line along the floor), and I said, ''oh no there's a child out there at the moment, I will do it later'', and I threw the pile of books onto the table in the stock room and went to do something else. The manager probably thought, ''that was a little harsh to say that.''

I wish I hadn't reacted in that way. Anyone else who didn't like toddlers would just say, ''I will put the books out after they have finished'' in a calm voice and gently put the books down and just do whatever.