Anyone else's memory slipping through the cracks?

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24 Oct 2011, 8:49 pm

Hey, new member, and thouroughly fed up with nearly everyone. Two issues, prepare for monologueing rant.

1) People are constintly telling me to pay attention. (note that I have no form of ADHD, I'm nearly the opposite of hyperactivity). I try so hard, focus every particle of my being, and still I forget nearly instantly. I'm always doing things wrong or asking for repeated instructions. Even if I have the steps right, I do them EXACTLY (Ex.: not realizing that say "happy birthaday" and hang up meant there was a step 1.5 have a conversation between steps one and two). I forget simple command and daily things, like eating or brushing hair, and even when I am as focused as ever I miss most of it. Or forget it. I'm in high school and always forgetting to do problems on homework I've written at the top of the page, and constantly leave books everywhere or bring wrong one simply because it's the same color. I've been told I walk down the hall in a daze. I can't stop daydreaming.

2) Sometimes I can't even HEAR what people are trying to tell me. A lot of conversations have a fuzzy foggy quality, contributing to the absentmindness. I only catch snatchess when I try so hard. Then people say I just need to pay attention. I am! And I still can't hear! How can someone experience sensory overload and deafness in unison? I hate when people talk loud and yet I ask them to speak up. It's like all noises crash in and block out others, not words but a constant buzzing drone, like hearing like a microphone and not selectively. Yet my hearing tests are perfect. Why do my ears suck?

Anyone else feel like this?


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24 Oct 2011, 8:51 pm

I haven't experienced that yet. Than again, we're all individuals. 8)


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24 Oct 2011, 8:51 pm

Welcome to WP, by the way! :D


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24 Oct 2011, 9:37 pm

Welcome to WP from another brand new member.

I noticed that you have music listed as one of your interests. Do you have the same type of concentration issues and ability to hear clearly when listening to music, or is it just following a verbal conversation between people? I ask because I do not have an issue with my earphones in while listening to music but cannot handle multiple auditory experiences well like talking on the phone with a t.v. on in the same room or sitting between two different conversations at once.

I also have a difficult, if not impossible, time following any type of lecture. (or conversation that doesn't interest me) Verbal instructions make me feel stressed and the more I stress it seems the faster I forget. I also need to write things down such as instructions my boss gives me as he is giving them to me or tasks I need to complete throughout the day or I do not remember them, and the forgetfulness happens almost instantly. With age I have learned different systems to help organize myself and my responsibilities. For instance I would be lost without post it notes...

The thought is to experiment with different ways to track and organize what you need to remember. Put reminders on your cell phone, sticky notes on books you need to take with you to what class, lay things out in your path or next to something you know you'll remember to take with you like your purse or phone, make a list and check things off, ect. The idea is to experiment with an easy system that you can remember to do that actually helps you and then make it part of your routine. Maybe your parents could help you, or you could start doing things in the same order daily so it becomes a habit for you.

You may want to read about sensory processing disorder as it sounds similar to what you are describing with your sense of hearing and being able to process what you are hearing properly.

As far as your attention goes that may just be some of the personal struggles you face with Asperger's, but it could very well be affected by your nutritional habits. I noticed a huge difference (and concentration improvement) when I stopped eating things like fast food and junk food, taking omega 3 and whole food vitamins, and started eating a gluten free diet.

And lastly the not recognizing things like realizing you are supposed to participate in a "step 1.5" as you put it is part of Asperger's from what I understand and have personally experienced...the social skills simply aren't there for most of us.

Hope something I wrote helps you...



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24 Oct 2011, 10:07 pm

I feel that way all the time. I have severe memory problems, ADD, audio processing disorder, dyslexia, and dyscalculia. I'm pretty much terrified of school. I did finished high school though.



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24 Oct 2011, 10:10 pm

Have you tried visualizing the steps of tasks? That helped me do science experiments with many steps. I don't get verbal instructions, spoken or written, so I found that visualizing yourself doing the steps helped a lot.



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24 Oct 2011, 11:51 pm

ADHD is not just hyperactivity. My Inattentive brethren will tell me that I have no idea what it's like to be them. Well excuse me for being combined. Just saying there the hyperactive impulsive type and the sloth...I mean Inattentive type which is like the opposite of stereotypical ADHD.

You could have information processing issues and sensory issues interfering in you understanding what people are saying. I zone out all the time and have both processing and sensory problems.

Stress could give you memory problems. How's your long term memory? Usually people with an ASD can have a great long term memory and a poor working memory, probably cause we have a lot of problems with that area of the brain.

I have a bit of a theory that stems from being a child who was hyposensitive to my senses and underwhelmed by my environment. Basically the memory problems, the fogginess and the lack of energy comes from that hyposensitivity that makes you walk around as if in a dream.

But maybe that doesn't apply to you.

OK, I won't tell you what you have but I will give you some tips that have helped me:

Omega 3 supplements: good for concentration and increased energy in some people.

An organiser: Either just as reminder on your mobile of important things to remember, or you can stick reminders on a noticeboard or carry around a notebook and write reminders in it (I keep forgetting to do that, lol - I have my phone).

Mental exercises or get into an interest that requires your brain to always think. I have a simple maths game on my phone which does help with my memory.

Eat healthy, exercise, drink lots of water.

Look again into Inattentive ADHD. You might not have it but if you do medication will really help you. I mean I do most of the stuff I listed but I still need a small dose of medication to actually get me motivated to do those things.


Lastly, try not to stress out about your issues too much. I used to but then I just accepted this is the way it's going to be. Work on some methods to decrease them but don't beat yourself up about them.


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