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1. Can you pass as nt anytime, anywhere?

2. Do you move on as-spectrum, like when you are home/outside/in school? Sometimes more aspie, sometime more nt?

3. How much it is connected to enviroment how strong your as-traits affect you/how aspie are you?

4. Do other beleive you have aspergers?

5. Who beleive more you have aspergers your family, your friends, people you know just a little bit or people you don't know at all?

6. How old are you and then can you tell the time ( the age ) when you were most aspie?

7. Were you more aspie in childhood or later?

8. If you are adult how you were doing when you was in early aduldhood ( age 16-24 ) did as got worst, were you depressed?

9. Have you learned social rules/how to cope at all?

10. How was your social skills a when you was a kid/how about now?

11. How you rate your as very mild/mild/moderate/severe/very severe?

12. Do you have official diagnosis of as?




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Edit: I put two more question.

Last edited by themonkey on 25 Sep 2006, 9:28 pm, edited 3 times in total.

I think so, but mainly it is by being silent.


At home I am just me, whatever that is. At work I am working very hard to "pass" for NT. At school I used to pass as NT mainly by being absolutely silent but I couldn't hold the game up long when I was younger.



If circumstances force me to multitask I am screwed. I have actually broken down at work because of this.



I have only told my Husband and my best friend - I'm pretty sure they believe me. I don't trust anyone else enough to tell them.



^ As above.



36 years old. I was most obviously Aspie as a young child before I learned how to "pass."



More obviously in childhood. Don't misunderstand, I'm still just as Aspie, I just know how to get along better.



Horrible depression in early adulthood though my first love committed suicide and my probable AS Father and possible AS Mother ran away from home then I was brutally beaten near to death so depression may not be related to AS itself.



I have learned to nearly seamlessly fake NT status in most situations.


They barely existed as a child but now I can "fake it" in most situations. That is not to say that I like it.

At Internet message boards I generally can, although I even sometimes have some problems at some of those. I'm pretty much socially awkward anywhere in "real life" though.


At home I just act like myself. Everywhere else I am reserved most of the time and whenever I try to "come out of my shell" I make a total ass of myself.


I try not to show my Aspie traits in public, but that's pretty hard sometimes, especially since I have a monotoned voice and some awkward mannerisms.


My parents don't believe I do, my brothers think it's a possibility, and I haven't "come out" to anyone else yet.


In response to what I think you're trying to ask, see question 4.


17 years old. I think I've always been equally Aspie.


I had more obsessive interests when I was a child, but I'm probably more socially awkward now.


Right now I'm in early adulthood and I wouldn't call myself depressed but I used to be happier when I was younger.


I've learned some social rules, but coping is still quite a challenge for me.


They were poor when I was a child and they're poor now.

1. Can you pass as nt anytime, anywhere?

Not quite. My Aspieness shows up quite strongly in situations where a high level of social communication is required.

2. Do you move on as-spectrum, like when you are home/outside/in school? Sometimes more aspie, sometime more nt?

I'm most aspie in those situations in which I'm the most comfortable- at home, at university, at my boyfriend's house, with close friends. If I am with people I don't know or with acquaintances, I will act more NT.

3. How much it is connected to enviroment how strong your as-traits affect you/how aspie are you?

Very strong connection.

4. Do other beleive you have aspergers?

My family and friends do.

5. Who beleive more you have aspergers your family, your friends, people you know just a little bit or people you don't know at all?

People who I know believe it. People who I don't know or know just a little find it hard to believe, both because of my aforementioned tendency to act more NT around unfamiliar people and because I normally meet new people one-on-one. I am quite good in one-on-one situations.

6. How old are you and then can you tell the time ( the age ) when you were most aspie?

I am 22. I was probably the most obviously Aspegian in primary school.

7. Were you more aspie in childhood or later?

Neither. I was more noticeably weird in childhood, though.

8. If you are adult how you were doing when you was in early aduldhood ( age 16-24 ) did as got worst, were you depressed?

I've had depressive tendencies since early adolescence. They have been going away over about the past year.

9. Have you learned social rules/how to cope at all?

I've learnt to watch others and do as they do.

10. How was your social skills a when you was a kid/how about now?

As a kid: very very poor.

Now: Limited. I have to constantly think about what to do in social situations, which makes them exhausting.

11. How you rate your as very mild/mild/moderate/severe/very severe?

Moderate.

12. Do you have official diagnosis of as?

Not yet.

A1: Nearly all the time. With things like 'Do you know where Cuba Street is?' I'll do it to perfection. However, if it involves a bit more internal thought, such as 'How do you get to Cuba Street' it'll show a little bit, because I'll pause to consider what I should say. In many situations with my friends at school I'm quite natural, although if it's with someone I don't know I'll be a bit 'iffy'.

A2: My first answer should explain half of this one! My strategy is similar to others who've been able to cope: Act NT on the streets as best I can (which is pretty darn good, to tell you the truth!), and then drop the act and be my true self when I'm home (since I found Wrong Planet last Friday, I've been doing this more often).

A3: The enviroment usaully doesn't contribute to my AS: For example, if I'm to abseil off a cliff my AS won't crop up due to the fact the cliff is there, however it WILL crop up because of the fact I have to abseil down it, and I'm a sucker for heights, despite the fact I'm quite tall for my age. I'll say many iterations of 'Err' and 'Uhh' and generally make odd noises with my mouth in protest.

A4: Heck yeah! I'm actually a bit proud of it: How else could I come up with the radical idea that the Universe is shaped like a pine tree (Hey, it could be!)?

A5: I told my friends about my AS during July, when the fact that I had AS started to get me thinking and interested about it. They've taken it in their stride, and so far things haven't changed at all, which is good because things were fine just the way they were.

A6: I turned 16 at the end of August this year, and I was actually a bit 'iffed' about it because I felt like I was 14! Must be related to the fact that I think that 1999 was about a year ago... Anyway, I don't think you actually can degrade down the Autistic Whatevery Thing (also known as the AWT).

A7: I was more Aspie when I was a kid (as soon as I started talking, I presume), but that all changed when I met Luke and Jeremy. They were kind enough to be bothered to teach me all the things like keeping my voice down, being expressive (funnily enough, I'm very, VERY expressive), how to lie with confidence and saying polite things like Hello, Thank You, Please and such. You could technically say that I was 'cured', but I'd say I was taught JUST enough to survive in social life sufficiently. You can throw the rotten fruit at me now.

A8: Instead of fakely answering this question, I'll just comment on my teenage future. I din't think I'll ever get depressed about my AS, because it makes me who I am and all that soppy jargon you get all the time in Health classes. I listen to a lot of music, and New Zealand's music is quite up-beat and light-hearted, with such hits as "Outlook for Thursday", "Something for the People" and "Six Months in a Leaky Boat", so this'll obviously affect my outlook on life. It doesn't mean I can't rock out to Foo Fighters, though!

A9: Well, I'd say answer 7 answers this question. I know some users will get offended or something by this next remark, but I think we should only be taught the nessecary social skills, and not to break up our obssesions with things like Squirrels, Double Decker buses and the like. That'd be going way, WAY too far. Throw more fruit at me!

A10: You really like to make people repeat what they say, don't you? My social skills were only just barely, by the smallest of imaginary margins, passable, although I did screw up a lot of the time. One thing that hasn't changed is that I find it hard at dinner to talk to my sister when my Mum and Dad are both speaking (even if it's in Dutch), and I always syop talking immediately when someone else in the audience speaks (makes for a lot of interruptions, but at least we're both able to get our points across in arguments).

A11: I'd say mild. My mum said I average at around 3: 2 in just normal day-to-day stuff, but it can crop up to 4 in certain situations.

A12: Yes! It was first picked up after my first epilleptic fit (well, it couldn't get much worse back then). I don't know how they did it, but I'mm assuming it had something to do with the 'Talk Place'. That's the by-pass word for the Psychiatrist. Don't worry, I found it to be quite enjoyable, actually (C'mon, you've got more fruit to throw than that, don't you?)!

A word of warning: many people have sad tales to tell to topics like this, so I hope you've come prepared for that. Okay, now you can throw round four of the rotten fruit.

[quote="themonkey"]1. Can you pass as nt anytime, anywhere?

2. Do you move on as-spectrum, like when you are home/outside/in school? Sometimes more aspie, sometime more nt?

3. How much it is connected to enviroment how strong your as-traits affect you/how aspie are you?

4. Do other beleive you have aspergers?

5. Who beleive more you have aspergers your family, your friends, people you know just a little bit or people you don't know at all?

6. How old are you and then can you tell the time ( the age ) when you were most aspie?

7. Were you more aspie in childhood or later?

8. If you are adult how you were doing when you was in early aduldhood ( age 16-24 ) did as got worst, were you depressed?

9. Have you learned social rules/how to cope at all?

10. How was your social skills a when you was a kid/how about now?

11. How you rate your as very mild/mild/moderate/severe/very severe?

12. Do you have official diagnosis of as?


1 Not sure

2 No always AS

3 Very connected to my environment - can make or break a meltdown

4 50/50

5 mixture

6 prob more now than ever

7 Prob same

8 yes but didn't understand why

9 Unsure maybe

10 Worse now fuelled by xtra stress

11 Severe

12 No

1. Can you pass as nt anytime, anywhere?

Yes. as long as it's for 90 minutes or less. I can't maintain the fascade longer than that without giving away clues.

2. Do you move on as-spectrum, like when you are home/outside/in school? Sometimes more aspie, sometime more nt?

No. Always the same. Just that when I'm alone, I'm used to me, so I don't notice that I'm different from others unless I'm with others.

3. How much it is connected to enviroment how strong your as-traits affect you/how aspie are you?

The environment can make me more uncomfortable, however, it doesn't increase my Aspie-ism. I am the same aspie amount. The difference is that I can be me alone, but with others, I have to be what they expect a normal person to be.

4. Do other beleive you have aspergers?

Yes.

5. Who beleive more you have aspergers your family, your friends, people you know just a little bit or people you don't know at all?

My family: parents, sisters, husband, all believe it the most, because they know me the most. Most other people I know haven't been told. The few I have told tend to begin treating me like a child (I'm 32), or they have no idea what the condition is, so I've begun cutting down on the number of people I tend to tell.

6. How old are you and then can you tell the time ( the age ) when you were most aspie?

I'm 32. I've always been the same. I can hide it more now, if that's what you mean, but that's only because I've been practicing for 29 years.

7. Were you more aspie in childhood or later?

Equally every time. What are you getting at here? I don't like being asked the same question over and over again.

8. If you are an adult, how you were doing when you were in early aduldhood ( age 16-24 ) did as get worse, were you depressed?

Same. Same. No.

9. Have you learned social rules/how to cope at all?

Yes. Yes.

10. How were your social skills when you were a kid/how about now?

First, I need to repeat what was just said. Please don't repeat yourself. I hate that.
Not as good as a kid. I didn't know I was having a harder time than others, so I couldn't figure out why I was never comfortable in social settings. Every few years I went back and forth between wanting to fit in, and trying very hard to mimic normal social behavior, and not caring about things that were simply not important to me.

11. How you rate your as very mild/mild/moderate/severe/very severe?
Hmm. That's a good question. If you were asking Autism, then very mild. But asking AS, I'd probably say moderate. I say this becuase I hear some people never figure out the skills to mimic normal behavior and get married, etc. However, this could have no indication of how Aspie I am and merely mean I have the intelligence to copy what I see, and that I had a great mother who taught me well. I hide a lot for the sake of being nice to people, so I'm definitely not mild. I think I'll stick with moderate.

12. Do you have official diagnosis of as?

No.

1. Can you pass as nt anytime, anywhere?

Not as NT exactly. Other people may sometimes assume that I have mild cerebral palsy, an intellectual disability, brain damage, or the nebulous category known as 'schizophrenia', though, depending on context.

2. Do you move on as-spectrum, like when you are home/outside/in school? Sometimes more aspie, sometime more nt?

I act differently in different situations, but I remain equally autistic. I suspect from the outside, though, I look very stereotypical at times and only somewhat stereotypical at others. That's different from 'being more autistic' at times though. For instance, not being able to understand what a computer is does not make me more autistic than when I do, although many people would see it that way. There's a lot of flux in my life and my abilities, though, if that's what you mean.

3. How much it is connected to enviroment how strong your as-traits affect you/how aspie are you?

My abilities change (I suspect that's what you mean) in different environments.

4. Do other beleive you have aspergers?

Only people who know me online tend to believe I have "Asperger's", because online it is not as clear as offline that I can't speak (and therefore don't qualify for an "Asperger's" diagnosis specifically).

Most people have zero trouble believing I'm autistic though, offline. Those that do, are people who believe that autistic people can't type, and who do believe that I can type.

5. Who beleive more you have aspergers your family, your friends, people you know just a little bit or people you don't know at all?

Most people believe I'm autistic.

6. How old are you and then can you tell the time ( the age ) when you were most aspie?

I'm 26, the second half of the question makes no sense to me.

7. Were you more aspie in childhood or later?

The question doesn't make sense to me.

8. If you are adult how you were doing when you was in early aduldhood ( age 16-24 ) did as got worst, were you depressed?

I don't know. I got less depressed though.

9. Have you learned social rules/how to cope at all?

I still don't know what the word "cope" refers to. Learning social rules in my case doesn't mean the ability to actually follow them, because that requires perceptual and motor skills that aren't there. (Sort of like asking someone with Moebius syndrome to smile at you to be polite, or a blind person to read your facial expressions.)

10. How was your social skills a when you was a kid/how about now?

I don't know.

11. How you rate your as very mild/mild/moderate/severe/very severe?

None of the above. Others tend to rate me on the basis of my writing as mild, or on the basis of my appearance and/or life-skills as severe/very severe. I don't believe in overall distinctions such as that.

12. Do you have official diagnosis of as?

Official diagnosis of autism.

That's a weird question. Most people don't know what AS is, so no matter what I do, people wouldn't know I had it. And you can't pick out an aspie just by seeing them for 5 minutes, so I think most people just think I'm a little odd. I know that's not the answer you were looking for, but the question doesn't make much sense.



I hide my behaviors more when there are people around me. But if there are too many things that are scaring me, like a lot of noise and a lot of people, then my aspie ways come out no matter what because I get stressed out and scared.



Depends on which traits. I get very upset in places where there is a lot of noise, a lot of people and that sort of thing. But my other kind of traits, like my talking non-stop about my special interests come out most when I'm just alone with my husband because I know he won't hate me if I talk for an hour about something that no one cares about.



Of course.



The people who know me best. And my doctors. People who only know me a little bit only see me when I'm pretending to be like them, so they might not believe anything is wrong with me.



I had the most AS traits when I was youngest, because I didn't know that I was supposed to hide them and I didn't know how to hide them.



More in childhood.



Things got really bad around the age of 12 for me. I tried to kill myself around that time. I was in the mental hospital a lot between the ages of 12 and 16.



Somewhat. I've learned some social skills. Enough to get by, I guess. I still don't know how to cope though. I become suicidal over stupid things.



My social skills when I was very young were pretty bad. They're better now.



I'd say something like moderate. Maybe the more "severe" end of moderate.



Yes.

1. I don't know. I think I can probably pass as merely shy in most situations, unless I'm having an emotional meltdown.
2. I don't stim obviously unless I'm in private, so yes. I also generally avoid talking about my perseverations with others.
3. Certainly my behavior changes depending on external stimuli, the number of people there are, what's being expected of me, how much stress I'm feeling from other factors, etc.
4. My parents certainly believe it. I've only told two friends, one of whom had no idea what it was and the other didn't really say whether she thought I seemed "aspie" or not.
5. See above.
6. 19, and this is hard to say. I think I had more obvious problems with regular emotional breakdowns when I was 10/11, but socially it became more obvious around age 14. Although I still had some noticeable social problems when I was younger, and the emotional meltdowns didn't completely stop by any means.
7. I was probably most obvious in adolesence, which is to some degree attributable to moving across the country at this time.
8. Yes, to some degree.
9. Yes, I think I've gotten pretty good at seeming at least mostly normal. I usually just keep quiet when I don't know what to do or say.
10. I think in many ways my social skills haven't changed much. I've always been able to mask some of my social difficulties through extreme passivity. I've probably used this coping mechanism more as I've gotten older, though, so to avoid some of the embarassing things which I sometimes said when I was younger.
11. I would say I'm pretty mild.
12. Yes.