I thought I was having a goodnight social wise...

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I went to my chruch youth group tonight and I was doing good. I was talking to everyone. I was being like every one else. I was fitting in. I had things to add to our convoation. I was doing well tonight. Until I rembered I invited a boy to chruch that I had only talked to on the internet. All the other people there were like me, this was the frist time they met him in person. He is a good looking boy and all the girls were hugging and touching him and talking to him like they had known him for years. While I stood in the corrner to scared to even say hello. He finally saw me and rembered me from the pics he had seen of me. He said hi and tried to havea converatio with me but I just kept killing it. I didnt mean to. I tried to have a converation with him it just didnt wok out so well. But I WAS doing well a while ago but with new people I just had a really hard time! Im so frustrated with myself!! !

I used to have a similar problem when I was you age, as my primary method of socialization as a child & then teen was via the re internet BBS system. I'm far more lucid and forward in writing than I am in person.

In college, living in the dorms surrounded by people, I became obsessed with trying to understand human to human social interaction. I saw mediated computer socialization as a barrier that was limiting me, so I abstained from computers absolutely for 6 years. Ironically, for someone who grew up in front of a monitor, I quit computers right when the internet happened. It helped quite a lot.

I still do better in small groups than at large gatherings. Perhaps the "progressive exposure"technique would be helpful. Like meeting a friend or date at a coffee/donut shop instead of at a big church gathering. Fewer people means less social conventions to try keep tabs on.

Heh, yeah, for me, church youth group just got to be too much. I kinda think they made it so much about socializing they lost track of God in the process. Uhm...yeah I don't really have a happy end to that story. Now I'm on the path toward Orthodoxy, as I think Orthodoxy has a much better structure for me. Yeah, for me, youth group was fun while it lasted, but I couldn't handle the socialness of it and I just crashed. Oh well, Now I'm an Orthodox Christian and I'm sure God will be able to use that very well, in spite of myself.

Good luck and God bless.

I find when you like someone it can be harder to talk to them or even look at them.