Could this be a problem?

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I don't get out much so i don't have a chance too develop good social skills (i can't get a job). Also my brother criticized me for my bad communication earlier today and said i had "no eye contact". when i went too school people said my eye contact was good but not nowadays


Now after my brother criticizing me i am under more pressure too perform when i go out with my friends.

Too put it simply my language problems are going too impair my quality of life in the occpuational and dating aspects of life.

What am i suppoused too do?

I think yes. In most jobs people are looking for "team players", and if you fail to make a connection with other people, you won't be very successful. But it would also depend on what your aspirations are in life.

the problem is becuase of my 'gender' as well there is more pressure for me too have good social and communciation skills which i seem too really lack badly.

i haven't really thought about my social skills much recently but now i have had criticisim natuarlly i am under more pressure too peform well when i am around other people which will just put me under more stress than before.

Well i hate too say this but also my 'aspirations' in life are too have a girlfriend and see many parts of the world. Guess i can't succeed in that area can i?

It's been 3 and a half years so far since I left college and I still haven't found any paid employment. So I have tried some voluntary work at 2 different charity shops, otherwise I would just be sitting about indoors all the time, getting into a lonely rut and not meeting any new people. And I must say, doing voluntary work has done me good with my social skills and getting the idea of a work environment, and I've made some friends too.

So maybe you could perhaps look into starting some voluntary work, even if it's just a few hours a week? Trust me, it does help you keep in touch with your social side, and it helps anyone, not just Aspies.