I HAVE CHARISMA.

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SOMEONE TOLD ME I DID.

lol. I don't think I'm Elvis, but false modesty is irrelevant, IMO.

Isn't this sort of...the opposite of Asperger's?

I fit this in so many ways but isn't this sort of huge inconsistency? I have a quick wit, and i have charisma. I don't really get picked on. Some people think I'm weird, but most people like me.

I'm still not the most normal person on the planet, and I probably don't have as *much* social awareness as a lot of people do, but if I have enough social awareness to have charisma and a good sense of humor, aren't I really not like most people with AS?

FWIW, my humor has always been described as offbeat and I don't really do that on purpose. It's not like I can't tell that it is slightly offbeat, but that's just how it comes out. I don't know, it's not filtered, so it is the way I think. But I guess people relate to that? So that makes me relatable? I'm not relatable in a lot of other ways i'm the opposite of relatable,, but I guess my humor is relatable.

Anyway, I fit in with you all to a tee in most other ways except that I probably seem more *normal*(no offense) and apparently have charisma.

Is anyone else this way?

I can put on a very slick charismatic act for a while, but it is exhausting and I can't keep it up forever. I can impress people for up to an hour and a half.

I can be charismatic for a period of time, but charisma is always going to be fake. Nobody is charismatic at the core because that's not what charisma is.

I have several personas that I can wear depending on the situation. One of them is quite the charmer.

Naturally, completely myself....I'm not sure. Some pople find me interesting, others are offended by me. It really would depend on the person(s) I'm interacting with, though.

I have simultaniously, Impressed, Confussed, Angered, and Enamored. All reactions by different people to the same actions/words at the same time. NTs got thier own weirdness going on, and are a bit too unpredictable, ug. Tis why I generally use a persona or two when dealing with people about something important, far more consistent responses.

I feel I have sone charisma.I make people laugh with my wit.I was once able to start a relationship with a African American girl in some of my classes but she betrayed me after some psychopaths who preyed on me found out.People often miss me when I leave them.I can carry on conversation.I can kinda make speeches.If I was placed in a group of aspies, I would be their king.

I was just gonna make a post about this...

For some reason or another, I find I actually do have charisma. People genuinely seem to like me and want to be around me. This is great, to a point.

On the other hand, I really don't understand why. And it doesn't change that I like my alone time.

People who aren't diagnosed but nonetheless like their alone time and are charismatic at least some of the time. This is surely contradictory, isn't it?

Your everyday neurotypical introvert. (MotownDangerPants being the wacky humorous kind, and syrella being the withdrawn artistic kind. That's all, surprisingly, within normal variation of the neurotypical populace.)

Yea. It's like I get that they like me but...I don't know. I don't feel that different with or without people and it's all sort of an act, anyway, so I guess I start to feel weird when people like *"me".

I thought what you said actually had some value until I sensed the snarky undertones and saw the emoticon.

I don't know you, I've never seen your screen name in my life, so I assume that you don't know s**t about me. I very well could be your "Everyday neurotypical introvert", I don't know. You don't know.

You obviously get some sort of satisfaction out of rolling your eyes at me like a 12 year old who is in dire need of an attitude adjustment. Which you may in fact be, I have no idea.

Regardless, I think it would be awesome if you could keep your wiseass opinions to yourself. I'm not so EVERYDAY NEUROTYPICAL that I won't say whatever the f**k I feel like saying to you if you start s**t with me.

Good Day Sir.

Someone described me as charming yesterday, I almost fell out of my chair.

Cut out the backseat diagnosing, there's a love. Or we'll have to assume you are doing this to deliberately provoke, and we all know that's against the rules.

To be undiagnosed, you first have to be diagnosed.

You aren't asking for a ban are you?

You can talk about this stuff without telling people whether or not they're really autistic. It was one thing when you were suggesting the majority of people are really NT, but naming names exceeds the boundaries of the social contract here, although I think this may not be the first time.

There is another thread here:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt52996.html

As anbuend points out on the bottom of the first page of that thread:



You're not going to find your acid test here, swbluto. There isn't one.

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Whenever a stranger suggests that I might be attractive, charismatic, or even "nice", I always wait for the rest of the sales pitch before acknowledging their compliment.

With a name like MotownDangerPants you have GOT to have some personality working in your favor! Charisma is supposedly something that you are born with - it is also very much in the eye of the beholder.

Definitions are our friend: charisma - a personal attractiveness or interestingness that enables you to influence others

It's a trait others recognize in you - not necessarily something you recognise in yourself. What makes a person interesting or attractive to another? It is a wide and diverse list. As a general rule, as an Asie you have a wide and diverse list of interests - you can talk about them with a passion that other people don't often seem to possess. I've seen plenty of Aspies here with a brilliant, witty and many times sharp sense of humor. Smart humor is attractive. I personally find the lack of a sports/ hive mind mentality in a man a desirable trait...

People flocked to and hung on every word that Andy Warhol said - everything he DID was considered pure gold. I still can't figure out why. He was not a charismatic speaker, he certainly wasn't the most handsome man - he was just a big thinker with big ideas. His sorely lacking social skills didn't preclude his success or other peoples attraction to him. He was the definition of charismatic.

Swbluto - dude... what is with this pathological fetish with undxing people? What difference does it make to you personally if people got their self dx right or wrong? And even if they ARE NT, they obviously don't feel they fit in there but do feel comfortable here. So - what's it to you? It's nothing. It's entertainment... and that is just plain old mean. I would say go pick on someone of your own dx status but - since you are still without one as well - that really wouldn't work would it? Seriously - who pissed in your cheerios?!