I end up doing things at the wrong time

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About everything I do is done at the wrong time.
form things about talking about drugs done at the wrong time, telling certain wemon I like them at a wrong time then when it's the right time to say it I end up screwing my self over.
Drugs; in high school I would talk about smoking weed when everyone is trying to do there work and I ended up getting kicked out of a school for being stoned and late.

Wemon: I told alot of girls how I felt about them and it got so bad where some b***h went to the princable telling the VP in tears how I touched her when all i did was ask her out at this point I got really depressed so depressed that I even forgot to show up for work and got fired so I attemped susicide by trying to jump off a eight story platform.
This happened like 3 years ago and am still feeling the after burn.

Recently a drunk girl who seemed flawless came up to me and ask me for a lighter to smoke a joint I lend them my lighter and I didn't know this but I was being hit on alot and asked questions like "Do you like me" I couldn't give a clear answer. So I told my buddy and he was like "dude you could of got madd p**** that day"
because the girl offered to give me her number for smoking a joint with her. Also this girl also noticed my AS symtoms like I wasn't making eye contact so she kept grabing my face too make me look at her.

I think I found her on facebook and she told me where to go and how to get there, but it might not even be her.

Some aspies, especially in the dating world, have really high expectations for themselves. I'm not sure if you're one of them or not, but I feel like you have a very definite image of a girl you want to date and that you are very rigid about that image.

I have seen a following scenario happening:
- Aspie guys expect to get girls who are super-social and super-good looking (a lot of that appearance is actually hours spent on makeup, hair, other grooming, and shopping)
- Then, they constantly fail to do so because of bad social skills
- They end up being extremely depressed and hating all women in general
- They give up on dating or they repeat the cycle an infinite number of times

Relationships are tough because you really have to come to accept the fact that you might have to first learn to make friends with people who are at the same level as you are socially and then work your way up. You need to learn how to build real, solid friendships first before you enter a relationship.

I've seen a lot of aspies get screwed over because they were so eager to adhere to NT cultural standards (trying to fit into NT society) that their entire life ended up being full of failures, while those who did accept their situation and instead worked on beginning with building friendships at their social level and then getting more apt at it one step at a time would end up having partners and being socially successful.

I can relate to crap happening in the past and screwing you over, but at some point, you just have to move on in order to get something good out of life. There are (or potentially are) people out there who would care about you and respect you, but you might have to change yourself a little bit in order to get what you want in life.

My advice for you would be to:

a) Watch your pot intake and make sure it does not interfere with your school and work. Keep your pot consumption to a level at which you can still organize your life properly.

b) Not do anything reckless. Occupy yourself with other things, like a job, to distract yourself. Make sure that you're not just sitting around and doing nothing or doing mostly passive things (like watching TV or browsing the Web). I know from experience that these activities extensively can put you into a strange brain fog/withdrawal/apathy state that, in addition to amplifying your depression, makes everything seem very bland and lifeless. You start seeing people as meaningless and unimportant. When I was depressed and addicted to computer games, I would skip school and play games on the computer all day. Once, however, I decided to watch a violent movie. After that, I literally had thoughts of going outside and hurting people. If only I had a gun...

c) Speak up for yourself. Ask questions. For example, if I was in your position at school, I could have asked how I could possibly incorporate my special interest into my schoolwork. I can think of many ways this subject can be incorporated into schoolwork. With your interest (pot), you can connect it to biology (classification of organisms, ecosystems, food chains, etc.), law, chemistry (looking at how it affects the human body on a chemical level and then exploring the properties of chemical compounds that are implicated), and these are just a few examples. At work, you can also bring up any AS characteristics that you think you will need accommodations for and then try to come to a consensus with your employers regarding the possible accommodations you would be allowed to get. People typically let you get away with more things once you show them that you have respect for them. Simply doing your best at work will show that you are committed to your employers and will play a huge role in gaining their respect.

d) If someone tells you not to do something, don't do it. It's as simple as that. Because if you do that, it shows that you listen, and it shows that person that you respect their words. This will strengthen, not weaken, the relationship. While clinginess can be a natural impulse as a result of paranoia, it can be very detrimental in any relationship, especially in one where the other party has clearly indicated that he/she does not tolerate clinginess. There are some people out there who can tolerate clinginess. So if you are looking for a friend or a potential partner, you've got to make sure that that person is okay with this part of who you are.