This has bothered me as I'm sure it has with other Aspies, but every so often when I pose a clarifying question to what someone has told me (generic example: "So what you're (also) saying is that when X happens, you also have to be concerned with Y?") they will respond with "What do YOU think??" I know enough from the tone that it's basically saying "isn't it obvious?? duh..." that basically I'm asking a silly question. (Incidentally, I think every time I got this it was from NT women.)
Well, if I can't intuitively read between the lines to discern the unspoken nuance, I have to rely on clarification if I suspect there may be a nuance (based on tone and expression, which I've learned enough to read). So at least I'm partially there. That's what upsets me, it has to be "all or nothing" on their terms, and they have the audacity to say Aspies think in black and white!!
So, in good faith, I will respond with "Well, I believe it is 'Y', because of conditions A and B, which lead to condition C, and that means Y would be a concern. Am I right??" The rejoinder will typically be a chuckle and comment like "you know, you really shouldn't over-analyze things so much, just go with the obvious." As for whether I got a yes or no to whether my interpretation was correct, strangely enough, it's divided about 50/50 in my experience. I know, you would have thought that "What do YOU think?" means "you're wrong" more often, but no, that's not how it turned out.
Is this a no-win situation, where one is basically insulting the other person for not communicating clearly enough? Or are they just being too sensitive about it? (if any NTs read this post as well as fellow Aspies, would be interested to hear your opinion!)