"We put the fun in dysfuction"...2011 Christmas

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Who here is getting the aspie v's family christmas jitters??

I know for one that family holidays are always filled with drama.
For me it seems that my siblings treat me like I am stupid and if I try to get out of the stupid box (like saying something intelegent) I am basicly told to put my dunce hat back on.
As for my mom, her and my sister love each other but my sister reads too much into what ppl say....and my mom is not exempted from that plus she has some aspie in her too, so she often says things that my sister reads the wrong way, which creates major drama.
Every Christmas someone has to act out...I dont know why.
It is just so stressful.

Anyone else get the Christmas jitters??

I used to love Christmas when I was younger now it's just family drama. There's a kind of 'forced' atmosphere on Christmas day, fake smiles, being nice because it's Christmas etc.

Did you happen to notice that you took the "fun" out of the word disfunction?

I found that rather amusing. But heck I'm sitting here alone on the computer on a Saturday night.

Damn! You beat me to it.

I am lucky enough to have a family that I really enjoy spending time with.
The only thing that makes me anxious about christmas is taking the airplane down to see them.

Instead of taking the plane down...try letting it land. That should make you more comfortable.

OK indulge me my sense of humor please? I very rarely get like this, but when I do, I really need to go with it.

Seriously...My birthday is th 17th, my dad died the 16th. My bf and I split up and I am going to be alone on Christmas too. All my kids are going away and my best friend will be in another state. What else can I do but laugh about it? At least I don't have an annoying family to cook for and have to put up with.

This isn't helping is it? I wish I could say I've been drinking...but I haven't

Just ignore me....sorry

I have Christmas seasonal triggered Anhedonia. I feel absolutely nothing.
I see ads on TV about Christmas and there's no feeling for me. I used to get excited for Christmas but in the pasts few years I haven't.

How eerie, Cinbad, the day my dad died and my birthday are a day apart as well, in December I might add.

Christmas to me is about food and a deadline to get these paintings painted. At least I've done a draft.
It's about seeing family too but I do see them quite a lot. After my last social encounter I pretty much slept through the next day so I'm not looking forward to any more.

Another thing we have in common... Dr Who...

Dr Who is like the only thing that gets me in the Christmas spirit - and they show the Christmas special on Boxing Day over here!

I also dread the family drama. I am quite happy to be in Ireland whike they are in Germany.

I do get the Christmas jitters. It was lovely when me and my brother were children because for most children Christmas is magical, but now everybody seems to be at one another's throats. My dad depresses the hell out of me and puts the mockers on the atmosphere (for Americans, ''putting the mockers on'' means ''dampening the atmosphere, making everyone feel irritable, bored, depressed, etc''), because he's not a very happy type of person at the best of times. My mum is OK, I am close to my mum but I feel I can't sit and talk to her and feel happy because if I speak my dad sarcastically turns the TV up, which non-verbally means, ''shut up!'' And my brother has to be annoying because he knows I get annoyed at any little thing. Usually he's either up in his room or out with friends, so I'm not really used to him being in the sitting-room with us, but on days like Christmas day he is in the sitting-room with us, and I can't exactly abandon him from the room because it isn't fair on him, but I just wish he would just act normal instead of intentionally trying to annoy the hell out of me, then blaming me when I get irritated and slam off to my room. It's always like that.

That is why I am not looking forward to Christmas. I just wish the government wouldn't give people so much time off work over Christmas.

Dr Who is the only good thing about Christmas. But he's not just for Christmas, he's for life.

My dad lives in Dubai and I nearly had to get a restraining order (aka court order) against my mum.

But my dad is going to take me to Cyprus to see the masses of family in Cyprus.

I am not looking forward to the celebrations but at least I'll be able to see my dad for longer than 1 or 2 days.

I'm not looking forward to it. My kids moved to Indiana a few years ago and don't talk to me. My father died in February. I'm alone in a five bedroom house. I'm not even bothering to decorate. Bah! Humbug! Once there are no kids to watch opening presents the thrill is gone.

The worst part about it is I have a very strong premonition that this will be the last 'normal' Christmas in a long time. I think the world is very suddenly changing in a big way, and in a few years it may be almost unrecognizable.

I didnt know your dad died....mine did too a few years ago. Our family kinda scattered after that, but for some reason we get together for Christmas and drive each other nuts.
I hope your pictures turn out well, I am sure they will. You are talented.
Sometimes xmas feels like numb....sometimes I really get into it.
This year I am going for moderation.
I fall asleep at family get togethers when I get overstimulated...I kinda shut down and get really sleepy and wobble to the nearest bed regardless whose it is.



to the other posters,

ya it used to be magical when I was a kid, now it is just drama. I still love buying presents and making presents for my loved ones, but every year, my hopes are smashed when everyone acts a fool.

LOL sorry about the ironic typo of disfunction....really rather funny.

For those who wont be graced by their family's dysfunction.....I suggest going to volunteer at a soup kitchen or some other charity event so you can be around ppl who appriecate you. And there is enough dysfunction is most charity organizations that you will feel right at home.



Anyway, I got my xmas shopping done...now working on the stockings. I like doing the stockings but even there is some presure doing that, my sister has a certain level of expectation for the contents of the stockings, which takes alot of fun out of it.
But for my other members of the family, they are grateful for the time and money put into them.
I wish Santa was real again and things were simpler.

Maybe we should boycot christmas with our families and buy a bunch of toys for kids in orphanages just to watch their faces light up when they open presents.

Jojo

OP can fix the title by editing the first post if they wish.
Also sorry to hear about your current situation.

As for making things dysfunctional I try my best to be as social as possible on family gatherings and this applies to Christmas as well.
It doesnt always work but at least I dont feel bad about not trying.