How do you make and plan goals?

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I'm not sure if this is in the right section, but I'll try anyway.

I was wondering if there are tips for making goals, I still feel new about this. Most of my life I've never heard or knew such a term existed until High School, when the teacher was asking us what our future goals were. I was so stunned that I needed him to explain the term to me, and even afterwards, I still couldn't fully fathom the meaning, because I never tried it before, and I didn't know what or how to do it.

I never even planned college. I just picked the first one I found after I graduated, and took the courses without really thinking of a goal in mind, that's why I dropped out.

But, I really see how important it is to make goals, and I want to try it. But I'm not sure if it's because of Aspergers or not that I have a hard time making and sticking with a goal. I usually just do what needs to be done now, and finish it. I don't plan or try to reach a goal that's in the future.

Tips please? ;-;

There's a great excerpt from 'Tweak'. He just got off Heroine and he moved in with his buddy in L.A. They're riding bikes, and this guy is just not feeling good obviously because he's a junkie on a road bike for the first time in a year again. But his friend says to him "Write it down man" And he's all like "No way. That'll never work" and his friend says he'll either get exactly what he expects or infinitely more.

Tweak is a true story by the way.

I'll look into that. Thank you!

Writing it down... yeah, that may work.

If you have aspergers and have problems with life goals you may first need to ask yourself these questions.

1. Do you tell yourself you can't do it or do you tell yourself you can do it when you think about what you would like to accomplish?

Here is what to expect. It won't be easy. It won't come easy. You must stay strong and persistent through these trials. You may feel like you're being kicked down. Do not focus on the kick, get right back up and tell yourself "I CAN DO IT!"

Another thing is, try not to premeditate outcomes too much as it can be overwhelming when something you did not expect does occur. It's okay to think a little here and there but not to an obsessive point. If you cannot do that then do not have expectations as sometimes planning too much can lead you into feeling defeated.

2. Write your goals without going to an extreme length. Pick the goals that don't seem out of your grasp to start. Sing about those goals. Get yourself excited about those goals.

3. If anyone tries to insist you can't do it. Just say "yeah whatever" and keep moving towards your goal.

Sometimes the most rewarding goals don't come easy. Those that expect convenience and quick rise up and large leaps ahead usually end up conveniently tripping over the hurdle that has the words Long Term written on it as they get a quick rise up over the what was supposed to be a large leap with a hard fall on their face.

Decide on something you want to do maybe a week from now. What steps do you need to take to reach that goal? Write down those steps. Each day try to accomplish something that gets you closer to reaching your goal. If a week is too long then try something for tomorrow.

I'm drawing a blank on an example goal, so if you can come up with something at all I can help. Something simple is fine.

That sounds scary TheygoMew 0.0"

Alright... I'll try it, yes!

I'm trying to wrap my head around this, but I can't understand it. If I can't think about the goal, how can I do it? Or does my goal have to be very vague?

Interesting... so the goals can even be something like prepare myself to walk to the store to by some supplies?

Yes. Goals for me can be stuff like clean the kitchen. Find a pediatrician for the kid. Any number of things that don't sound like much but are difficult for me. You could set a goal to get some item you want or need. Then you plan the steps to get that accomplished then do it. Some goals have sub-goals, some don't.

Have the goal, envision it, write it down but do not do what I used to do and make it pages upon pages with also potential outcomes and fixes for things that could potentially go wrong because there will always be the unexpected.

The goals...the rough draft...the programming...the unexpected errors...the troubleshooting....access denied may come up several times until finally you see access granted.

Expect the unexpected.

This I can start off with. Thanks for the helpful tip!

So, write down the basics of the goal like... ah, "be a vet."

I just write that down, and that' it? Rough draft... that means this goal could change at some point? I'm sorry, I'm so confused ._.

I wish I knew. Fifth decade and still none the wiser about planning for the future. I know tomorrow is coming but it never occurs to me to think about it. I hardly ever have any spontaneous thoughts about the future. It makes me a little sad sometimes when I realise how all my peers were so goal driven years ago and how little I have achieved in comparison.

Of course goals can change. It's just a guide to get you where you want to be.

So to become a vet:
1. Check out vet schools. What are the entrance requirements?
2. Fulfill Entrance requirements
a. What university will you attend? Apply to the university. ***
b. If necessary, apply for financial aid or scholarships. People in the scholarship office will help. You can do a lot of this online.
c. Get transcripts from other schools attended. The courses you have already taken will usually transfer.
d. Use the counseling office to determine which classes you should take when.
e. universities and colleges are covered by the ADA (in the US). If you need accommodations there will be a department on campus that will help with that. If they balk, they are in deep doo doo. They don't want to do that.
3. When it's time, apply to vet school.

There's no need to go into great detail right this very minute. Just detail out one step at a time. I highly recommend a two year community college for the core classes because it's cheaper, classes are usually smaller, and are usually taught by actual professors rather than assistants. Distance learning is becoming more and more common as well.

For older folks reading this, I received my BA in 2005 when I was 48 years old. I wasn't the oldest person around in many of my classes.