Others dislike smarminess?

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Seems a very Aspie thing to dislike smarminess. I hate it when people act a certain way when they seem very likely to be feeling not quite that way.

My dad was middle school/junior high teacher, and I am glad I did not have him as a teacher. He purposely put inflection into his voice (to liven things up for kids that age; sometimes he does it around kids in general these days), and I don't think I like that now or even liked that when I was a kid.

I feel nauseous when people at my workplace suck up to the boss or do similar things (acting manly man and such for female colleagues) expecting some reward in exchange, for example a guy at the sales department does this to women at the finance department in order to have his invoices managed smoothly. The painful part is when I see how differently they behave towards other people.

I hate smarminess. Can't think of an example at the moment. But I can't be bothered sucking up to people. Don't see the point. Take me as I am.

But I don't think that putting on a voice for kids is really smarmy. I remember complaining to my mom about a supply teacher in third grade who didn't add inflections when reading us stories who bored me to tears. My mom told me, everyone's different. Good response really.

Especially as a child, I hated it when adults would put on that fake formal tone when speaking to me. I also hate it when people use a baby voice when talking to the elderly.

I have been accused of smarminess a lot. But I'm quite sincerely friendly and earnest. Frustrating.

I hate it when older people look really proud when they pointed out that time in their life when they went out to the pubs in mini-skirts and drank themselves stupid and did really embarrassing things. Then when I whine and say, ''I'm the only 21-year-old in the world who has never even nearly done anything like that before!'' and people are like, ''it's no big deal - it's good to not be like that.'' Then I feel like saying, ''then why are you so proud of yourself?''
That's a bit like being proud of when you were a toddler screaming and laying on the floor in public.....

Maybe smarminess isn't the right word. I don't like that my dad seems -- or actually DOES -- change his inflection and and affect a lot. He seems to be putting on an act or show one moment, then the next seems very irritated. I don't like large shifts in affect/inflection.