Are you told you are disrespectful?

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I get told this time and time again! Such as when I blurt out and interrupt my parents talking. Dad always snaps back "that was disrespectful!" I am SO SICK! Of being snapped at/yelled at or cussed at or put down! I've even been up front about this (Oh that's why I'm in a bad mood dad yelled at me etc.) and mom doesn't blink an eye or care! I was wondering who else here perhaps might be told they are disrepectful?

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No

I get that from my mom too. It's pretty normal, I think.

Yes I've gotten that before......either due to not remembering to say the right things in certain situations, like if I was a kid and neglected to say thank you for things I mean usually I would say something to indicate I liked what was given to me but it did not always occur to me at the time to say much else so yeah I guess missing social cues and not responding to them.

But other then that I see no reason to constantly be respectful.......especially if I feel I am being disrespected. I guess I think respect should be earned more or less. That does not mean go out and act like a total ass to everyone, but don't go out of your way to respect anyone unless there is reason to. Like one time I had a teacher try to tell me I was being disrespectful and should also look at them when they are talking to me.........but this teacher had already done quite enough to single me out and make me feel bad in front of the other students so I saw no reason to respect him or look at him for that matter. I mean first of all he was behaving like a bully and secondly I am not comfortable with eye contact to begin with especially with someone who's making me feel uncomfortable.

Yes, all my life for various reasons despite doing my best to be polite. Now I get it from my kids. Even my definitely not NT daughter gets on my case for forgetting to say "Bless you" when she sneezes.

I get it from parents all the time. This is my standard reaction:

I used to get told this a lot in 6th grade and it was very frustrating. It was like I couldn't say anything right so I had to walk on eggshells. But it was them with the problem honestly. Bunch of people don't ever tell me I am disrespectful. 6th grade was the most I got it because the school staff was so difficult to deal with. Plus their idea of me being disrespectful was me arguing or asking questions or correcting them or stating my opinion or reading a book in class while all the other kids goof off in their seats because our math teacher bored us to death with her bla bla bla. Then I decided i wanted to be an adult so I have more freedom of speech and not get accused of being disrespectful. I didn't like how grown ups had authority over kids and we had to stay silent and be their sheep. I even said they all have the power and I hate being a kid now. Don't like what a kid says to you, tell them they are being disrespectful. But maybe all these people were just abusing their authority on me. No wonder some kids go ODD. Even my mom thought their idea of disrespect was silly. Me reading a book was disrespectful but other kids goofing in class was not? Then me writing and falling asleep was also too. Silly staff.


I would start doing the silent treatment if everything I was saying was "disrespectful." I would only speak when spoken too. When I couldn't get along with my dad's cousin because everything I said was rude, (same as disrespectful), I started to do the silent treatment around her. Her idea of rudeness was I kept interrupting and I talked too loud or said the wrong stuff or did the wrong stuff so I stayed out of her way and didn't say a word unless spoken too. if I had to be around her, I avoid her much as possible by staying away from her and be in the other room and do my own thing so she couldn't get mad at me.