Can you ve weird without having asperger?

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Hi, I am weird generally but I'm afraid I don't have asperger because I am very good at reading people, too good actually...
I have a great sense of humor, I'm very sarcastic. I'm weird because I never say appropriate things and I have social anxiety. I wish I had asperger, but I am afraid I don't even have it. s**t

Why do you wish you had it?

Yes you can be weird and not have AS.

because I would be something

why? how? explain

How do you mean that?

Well it's simple, AS can belong to a kind of community, they are dealing with some issues wich are identidied. The fact of knowing that you have asperger gives you a kind of strength. Your difference is explained, it is more acceptable for you not to fit. This is the reason why I thing asperger gives you a good feeling.

I am exactly like this too. I can read people, suss people out very quickly, etc etc etc. I tick all the boxes under Social Anxiety, and sometimes I don't say the appropriate things (which is why I get afraid to speak up when in a group of people - even if they're talking about a special interest of mine).

And yes, you can be weird without being an Aspie. I know plenty of them. I could explain lots, but I don't like to write about other people's lives over the internet.

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I know somebody who is strange, and no drugs are involved. She's 44 years old, got 2 small kids, walked out of her home and from her husband because of relationship issues, went with another bloke who's just come out of prison, got pregnant with him before she even got to know him properly, got him to move in with her (her 2 kids aswell), is enemies with the kids' real dad, then after having the baby they split up, so now this woman is alone with 3 kids, and is struggling like hell. What, is she crazy to f**k up her life like that?!

I know another person who sits and texts people weird messages all day, to get them all confused and also mad. We've only just found out that it is this person who was doing it. Everybody's like 'how weird!'

And that is just 2 out of many examples. I didn't mention control freaks, wife-beaters, stalkers, sexual abusers, murderers, the list goes on and on and on.

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YES.

You want to have a harder time reading social cues? You want to be sensitive to stimula that most people don't even notice? You want to have trouble keeping friends, and dating? You want to have trouble holding an interview and fitting in with your work culture, thus putting your employment in danger regardless of performance? Well step right up. There's a good chance you be dealing with all of it, every day of your life.

Because I see lot of weird NTs. How they think and act. Even my own husband is weird. I will see weird people on the bus sometimes and I doubt they all have AS. Even the bus drivers act weird sometimes. They will tell their passengers to sit when other drives don't even have issues with them standing.


Plus there are other conditions out there people have that would make them "weird." Social anxiety can be one of them.

This.
I come across weird people every day. One of my friends is a bit weird. He is NT, but can be a bit weird. When he texts me and I don't reply because I'm busy or something, he soon texts something like, ''OK, what's the matter now?'' as though he's assumed that I've gone funny with him - which I haven't at all. I normally reply to his text messages, and he should also know that I'm not the type of person to get the arseache or suddenly be upset with someone for no reason. None of my other friends write texts like that.

Oh. Often I've seen threads on here saying about how we find it hard to understand jokes and sarcasm and even metaphors. I personally don't, but it must be common in grown-ups too if it's often thrown around a lot on WP.

Most 4-year-olds don't always get sarcasm and jokes, NT or Aspie. When I was little, my brother used to say ''no!'' in that sarcastic voice, and his mate always used to think he really meant ''no''.

Fours are pretty much equal. The extremely, seriously non-verbal autistic may stand out as such by four, but most of us are just starting to show. A brilliant four-year-old NT may be tying his own shoes. My daughter's kindergarten required shoe-tying as a prerequisite -- I suppose they'd still have allowed a child to come to school if he or she couldn't do it (especially if wearing velcro-tab sneakers), but a child past the fifth birthday is expected to, and the expectation is a signal to parents to work on it with them before they start to school, and if it becomes noticeable that they can't, they'll haul them in for evaluation. I was still needing someone else to tie my shoes when I was in second grade. I knew that I was slow on that, but in 1950 or so, that wasn't a criterion for anything.

There are _bunches_ of ways we fall behind the NTs (and bunches of ways that many of us are ahead of them): I was reading flash card words at 2 1/2 (My mother stayed home and tutored older kids who were having trouble reading in school: she had given up teaching when I was born, but was a crackerjack reading teacher, especially.) I just picked it up without her having to teach me, by watching her and the "big" kids. The only work she'd ever deliberately done with me was the alphabet, and that was more like playing with the baby to her, with alphabet blocks. But she couldn't teach me to catch a ball. I did learn to tie my shoes, eventually, but I still can't catch an object flying in my direction.

The following I probably should paste into TextEdit and keep: I've used it a number of times on this forum, and hate having to type it all over again: I'm lazy.
Tony Attwood said that a diagnosis of Asperger's is like a thousand-piece jigsaw puzzle. Some of the pieces have one straight side, and some of them have two straight sides forming a corner. You get all those out and put them together. Then you work on the pieces with four wiggly sides, and when you have 800 pieces in place, you have your diagnosis. That leaves 200 pieces lying around the table for the NTs or other autistics to have. And when somebody else does another version of the puzzle, there might be a different 200 pieces left out. There are a lot of different ways to be an Aspie.