A really weird situation...

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For the last few weeks, I have been sitting at a lunch table with about nine or ten freshmen (I'm a senior, but I'm new). Anyway, a couple of days ago I walked over to the table right after I got my lunch and everyone was silent. I asked my friend, Jon, what was going on and he simply just said he was tired. I had seen him at his locker that morning, talked to him then, and he was just fine. Anyway, I told him that he had been fine that morning. Then Brenda, a girl at that table, got out of her seat, got right in my face, and rudely said, "You know what? That was rude. You do not just say 'you were fine this morning' when he is obviously upset." I don't understand. I had never had any problems with Brenda before and that table always had a lot of laughter and hype rather than silence and bad attitudes. Yesterday I avoided the table and sat at my acquaintence, Carlene's table, instead. Today, I sat at my friends' table again and everything went fine. In fact, it was probably the best lunch I had had this year. But when I was waiting for the bus when school let out, Jessica (one of Brenda's friends) said to me, "Brenda told me to tell you to never sit anywhere near us ever again." I asked her what she was talking about but she purposely walked off, leaving me in confusion and spite. I truely have no idea what's going on. Why is everyone acting all schizofrantic on me? What did I do? Help! I am so confused! What should I do?

Last edited by Lightning88 on 12 Oct 2006, 2:34 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Is there a way to confont Brenda in front of the girl who told you she said not to sit at the table anymore?

The only way I can do that is at the table itself. I don't have any classes with Brenda or Jessica.

NT idiots. To them it was an insult when you commented his condition in the morning. It was "inapropriate".

Sit where you want to sit.

And don't start thinking that "everyone is acting schizo toward you":
Seems to me that maybe only Jessica & Brenda are; personally i would avoid starting any sort of interaction with these idiots.

Its high school.. someone probably started some stupid rumor about you that Brenda took offense to and the rest are just "following the leader". Stupid sheeple.

brenda is not the who decides where everyone in the lunchroom sits, is she......

maybe you could ask someone else whats going on, other than brenda or jessica. maybe someone else will be a little more clear about whats going on

This is another instance where the ability to say something like, "Um, I have Asperger's" would make it all go away.

Let me get this straight:
SHE's accused YOU of being rude!!??

Don't forget, folk with AS atre not the only ones with mental quirks.

Can't talk to your face, getting others to deliver uncomfortable messages she has no right to come up with in the place? Who died and made her queen?

(Note: saying that to her might not be the tactically correct move, even if it's all quite fair and true)

"Since you are against being rude, I concluded you couldn't possible have meant that message that got round to me."

You obviously need to get more information on what's happening here. try to think about all the things you've done recently, there must be something special that got them upset ... or maybe someone is spreading lies about you. I don't think getting away from that group is a good idea, they can't all stay mad at you forever, try to work your way back into the group, talk to them when they are apart.

On the other hand, you are an aspie right? There must be hundreds of things you are doing wrong and maybe they got tired of that. At least that happened to me in school, my friends suddenly asked me to stop following them around. I didn't understand why they said that or if they were being serious, so I kept following them and they eventually got used to my weird self.

If brenda want's to be a total B**** then let her you're too good for her and her friend.

if that was all that happened, she is blatantly nuts.. Psycho!

Ask her what her deal is, if they dont talk, then chalk it up to a mind game and never talk to them again.. seriously, you'll kick yourself trying to figure out their problem.. Some girls are like that

I had one constantly lead me on then push me away.. she was a nut job beyond hell.. I always thought it was me but its them.. dont let yourself think you have the issue, thats bad, you have no idea what you did and they are stupid for not wanting to inform you..

If a real friend had a problem with me, they'd tell me.. In fact, when i've had issues with people i've told them outright and although they got all depressed, it was better then avoiding them (which i incidentally do now but i have good reasons)

I think that if you want to confront this issue and 'get to the bottom of things', then fernando's advice about talking to people individually is the way to go (most probably the only way).
However, i don't think you should 'try' to get back into the group; if you are not accepted for who you are, then why should you care?: take Unknown's advice.
So be sure not to 'try' too hard.

Also, do not be so quick in judging Carlene...well, maybe something to keep in mind.

Good luck & let us know how you get on.

Believe me, I have had similar situations happen many,many times. People suddenly deciding that they don't want to talk to me anymore, or worse, saying something like: "You know what you did!" Of course they would never tell me what IT was. I am long out of high school, and I still get this situation, on and off. I wish I knew the answer. I guess it might be talking to the individuals who aren't so roped into the herd that they cannot think for themselves, and try to see what got them so upset?

lol
I don't fully understand freshman, sophomore, senior etc, but this is college, not elementary school, right?

Is Brenda so immature she needs a go-between? Tell her and Jessica to grow up. Stay cool

I used to have a very good friend that talked to me every day. Now he doesn't, he just yells at me whenever I say anything to anyone. I really don't have any idea what's going on either.