How do you get along with other Aspies?

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Truthfully, I generally fancy them more than NT people. I connect with the eccentric mind in a deep way. I love to discuss philosophy and science with a "specialist". My interests seem more broad than many, thus I can usually enjoy their trip for awhile, unless it's mechanics or writing computer programs. Machinery bores me and I don't have a foundational knowledge of computer programs. .

Even before I knew I was an Aspie, I always managed to make friends with other Aspies, even lifelong best friends.

I have had NT friends as well and in fact have at times enjoyed extreme popularity, but the truth is, I would get exhausted after awhile and become a bit reclusive for a period which they found perplexing. I would make plans and then not feel like it when the time came, generally due to erratic sleep etc. I'm not really flakely but I get how it might seem that way to someone who doesn't understand.

I get along with aspies better-its like we speak the same language and do not have to translate things to talk to each other like when hanging out with NT's

You missed out the option - "I don't know any aspies"

It entirely depends on the person (and that's not at all the same as equally).

Of the two people who've hurt me most, one of them is an aspie, the other isn't.
Of the two people who I've been closed to in my life, one of them is probably a spectrumite, the other isn't.

I get along with NTs better generally, especially older NTs. But I think I get along with Aspies who are my age. There should have been an option saying non-NTs who aren't Aspies either, because I have a few friends of my age with other mental disabilities but aren't on the Autism spectrum.

I can get along with both, however it is MUCH more difficult with NT's than with other aspie's.

Depends on the person, really.
Just like NTs with other NTs.

I went to a monthly autistics meeting for a while. It was okay. But I found autistics (or at least those who visited the meeting) weren't necessarily easier to approach than people who aren't autistic. I thought it would take away a lot of barriers, but I sometimes experienced some fundamental problems in communication anyway. I'd sometimes listen to someone rant, and out of politeness I didn't want to interrupt, but it was difficult to get a word in edgewise. I didn't slack my attention toward their story, however.

Irony demands that in the past two years, the two people I've had the most comfortable interaction with (both at work), were extraverts, the opposite to little old introverted me. Quite the opposite of autistic in every way. My best friend is on the spectrum, however, although he's very mildly affected and chooses not to self-identify as autistic. He just has the diagnosis, but he mainly chooses to not label himself as autistic, and it works out for him.

It varies from person to person, regardless of labels.

However, I prefer to spend my social time with specific types of NTs (mature, creative, openminded ones), as I feel like they are on the same emotional wavelength as I am. It's a feeling you can't explain in words...our conversations flow and things just feel right.

People with AS, in contrast, are harder for me to relax around as they are not as emotionally expressive or in touch with their emotions...and it's harder for me to know if they are feeling a certain way or not. The way I am trying to buffer this is to find commonalities between me and the person with AS and focus on the mutual things that draw us together.

Although I've never (that I know of) met another Aspie face-to-face, from my online interactions with people here, I'll say that I'd probably get along better with other Aspies.

To the best of my knowledge, I have never met IRL another diagnosed Aspie. I have met some people who have enough Aspie characteristics that I asked them, but if they were they didn't know it either, not even self-diagnosed, and to a couple I had to explain what it was that I was asking!

However, WP feels more like "home" to me than any other place I've been on the web, including e-mail communities that I've been with for about 15 years. Just the whole _concept_ "wrong planet" (or "Alien in the Playground", one book about it) strike very strong chords for me.