Obsessed with neurotypicality

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Lately I've become very obsessed with neurotypicality (if that is a word). I seem to admire NTs, observe their behaviour and body language more than ever, and becoming so obsessed with it all that I don't know what to do.

I spend 2 or 3 hours nearly every day writing stories on my special interest (which is a certain bus company), and the stories are about the existing bus-drivers and their normal everyday social lives they lead. And I find it so interesting and fun. Too bad I'm just a stupid introverted Aspie who will never be accepted by many people. *sigh*

Is there any other Aspies here who are obsessed with neurotypicality and the norm? Is it unusual for an Aspie? I've actually always been a little obsessed with the norm. I kept some old stories and drawings what I did when I was a child, and they were always of somebody alienating themselves from a group of other children, and me being an NT encouraging this child to join in but the child won't, sort of thing.

Which bus company?

If it is First, I used to date someone who drove for them. They still do drive for them, but I don't date them any more (although we chat now and then...amongst other things lol)

I'd also like to know the name of the bus company. I was obsessed with a type of bus for a while.

There is a chap (that I was told about by the bus driver referred to in my post above) who is also obsessed with buses in my area. He spends his days spotting them, recording the registration of each bus he sees etc, and filming them. I saw him a few times out and about with his camera whilst I was riding the bus with my then romantic interest lol.

I assume it's an updated version of train spotting. Cute in a way.

Where do you live, exactly?

I am in Norfolk.

I am obsessed with buses but I don't go ''trainspotting''. I'm just obsessed with the company because I like the drivers. My obsessions aren't based on facts - they're more so based around social interaction, and the only facts there are due to social facts.

I won't say what bus company I am into but I will definately say it is not First, I hate First.

I was obsessed with being normal so I think that is why I changed so much as a kid. I suppose if it became a special internet for aspies, they use their intense focus to act and be normal and it wouldn't be exhausting for them because it's their special interest.

Without a doubt.

I was very obsessed with the behaviors of what I thought of as "normal people" I wanted to be able to mimic their actions to understand their interests and even figure out why they needed specific things in their lives that I never needed. As a kid I would study both the Type A personalities, as well as their followers... I loved how they had their sorts of ranks and complex chains of command. The way that conversations happens, sometimes excites me. As long as the conversation I am listening to is not one I've heard before I can generally quite enjoy listening to 2 NT people talk about something. I generally dont focus much on the subject but instead the flow of their conversation.

I experimented with a lot of the things I learned from being obsessed with the social interaction of neurotypicals and the things that worked in my personality have been clearly adopted and have helped me get places in my career (in some HUGE ways)

I don't think it's to hard to think the way NTs do, but that's just because I'm more Empathetic than average, even more empathetic than THEM! I think the differences are that when talking I have to think of what to say more and it takes me longer to phrase things. I also love being in large groups but hate being ignored. Plus I DO tend to stick to one subject, but when I talk I can talk about other things too, I just get stuck on my favorite subject when super nervous or when something's bothering me about it. I guess I'm kind of a hybrid between Aspie an NT, with some ADD mixed in.

I used to be interested in trying to mimic "normal" social behavior when I was in high school, but towards the time I turned 18 I lost interest in making many friends. Or maybe I gave up? I don't know.

I think I'd be so much happier if I was NT. As long as I get to keep my artistic abilities and creativeness.

I like to observe how NTs act and think because I've always wanted to know what being an NT is like. A lot of things that NTs naturally just "do" is what fascinates me. I've also tried to figure out the borderline between AS and NT behavior. I look at myself and think of some of my behaviors as NT-like or AS-like. Don't we all just want to be NT for a day?

I think that's a lot of HFA chicks. I know it's me. Obsessed with neurotypicality. Consumed with the belief that they are inherently better. Wanting to be NT, as NT as possible. Lambert the Sheepish Lion. Ugly Duckling, only you never turn into a swan in your own opinion.

It makes me so mad I could SPIT!! !!

Something what my Grandmother said made me feel better, although it hasn't cured my hatred of Autism nor has it got me to stop wishing I was NT, but it still made me shut up and think.

She said, ''oh, you're miserable being an Aspie but I bet if you were NT you would still be as miserable''.

She didn't mean I would be miserable because of being NT, but she meant I would still just be miserable about something else, since I would just be taking my social skills for graunted. I know she's right - I'm not speaking for anyone else here but I haven't met any NTs who are proud to be naturally social.

Who's to say just because you're NT means you won't have any creative skills? I can play the piano, but I still might of had that same talent even if I wasn't born with AS. I know loads of NTs who can play a musical instrument or can draw brilliantly or can write amazing poetry.