No they aren't a mental disorder. Autism/Asperger's are a group of related neurological disorders that usually also have developmental, physical, and social aspects. Some of us are slow to talk and do other developmental things. Some of us have very real physical sensitivities to sound, touch, skin sensitivities, etc. And a lot of us have social problems with reading, or misreading social cues, making eye contact, etc.
There have been studies done showing that there are neurological differences in the brains of people on the spectrum.
Mental illness generally refers to people with depression, bi-polar, schizophrenia, paranoia, psychotic behaviors, etc.
Because of the problems caused by spectrum disorders, many of us have depression, which is a kind of mental illness, but it is not a part of the spectrum itself, rather our difficulties relating to the NT world cause us to sometimes suffer from depression.
I have been dealing with lifelong depression due to my problems relating to the NT world, but I have been doing better for the past 6 & 1/2 years, due to an improvement in my living situation.--I now live alone, instead of with NT family members. This is much better for me, and now that we are no longer living together and driving each other crazy, we get along better.
The doctor you dealt with was not correct, except that you might be depressed. This is common among people on the spectrum. There are ways to deal with depression. Either one or more methods will help almost anyone. I can't stand therapy, and don't trust drugs. Instead I prefer to use coping mechanisms. Some good ones are:
- Music
- Humor
- Exercise
- Hobbies
- Volunteer
- Join clubs or other activities
- Read
- Watch TV (especially funny programs)
- Surf the web
- Pets
The key with all of these and other coping methods, is to keep occupied. It helps to distract from depressive thoughts. Along with now living alone, my coping methods help me keep to my own level of "normal". It is lower than a non-depressive person's normal, but for me it is better than being depressed.
As for more serious mental health issues, I don't hear voices that aren't there, and don't see things that aren't there. I also don't think the whole world is out to get me (just some people
), and I don't want to blow anyone away, and I don't want to do sick things to kids and animals, so I am not mentally ill.
Finding out what IS wrong with me was a much needed relief. It helps me understand my differences better, and helps me cope better, too.
I suggest you find a doctor with more experience with spectrum disorders. And remember, we on the spectrum are all:
A Different Drummer
If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
Perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears,
However measured, or far away.
--Henry David Thoreau